• @[email protected]
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    92 months ago

    It’s a bit of both. I can see these hobbies leading to a healthy relationship, but anyone who thinks the answer isn’t “hit the gym” is coping.

    (Btw I’m no gym rat, but this is a fact)

    • @Shapillon
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      192 months ago

      Hitting the gym can’t hurt but it’s very low on my list of priorities.

      Being chill, open with one’s emotions, able to communicate reasonably, willing to help around etc are way higher.

      Usually being a woman helps too but life’s life.

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          22 months ago

          The issue us that the hobbies you have have little correlation with whether or not women like you. I do many things on the list of hobbies that women find unattractive, but I don’t have trouble pulling because very little of attracting a sexual partner actually has to do with having a lot in common with them. It’s more of vibey thing like that guy was saying.

          At the same time, the gym is gonna help self image and self confidence which will help you be fun chill and easygoing which will help you get laid.

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          02 months ago

          Exactly!

          As long as they’re not punt kicking kitten or dropkicking old folks, hobbies are pretty much irrelevant imho.

    • @[email protected]
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      152 months ago

      As someone who does hit the gym, in my experience the majority of people you’re impressing with your physique are men. Sure I’d say most women like it if you have it (assuming you aren’t too big), but generalising that it’s the main attraction would be a mistake.

    • @UnderpantsWeevil
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      92 months ago

      anyone who thinks the answer isn’t “hit the gym” is coping.

      I’d put “hit the dermatologist” above it. Plenty of girls go for the skinny or husky builds. But blemishes are a universal turn off

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        42 months ago

        The benefits of hitting the gym are much more than just getting swole. It increases self-confidence, helps to improve self-image, etc, which are all way more important to getting laid than any hobby you could have.

        • @UnderpantsWeevil
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          12 months ago

          It increases self-confidence, helps to improve self-image, etc

          I could say exactly the same of the dermatologist.

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              12 months ago

              ???

              You don’t think acne is biochemical or hormonal?

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                12 months ago

                No. I don’t think that going to a dermatologist causes significant hormonal changes like exercising regularly does. Why would I ever think that salicylic acid and antibiotics would affect my neurotransmitters and hormones significantly? They don’t…

                • @UnderpantsWeevil
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                  02 months ago

                  I don’t think that going to a dermatologist causes significant hormonal changes

                  I don’t think you’ve ever been to a dermatologist

                  • @[email protected]
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                    12 months ago

                    The fact that some derms offer hormonal therapy for certain cases of severe acne does not make that regular by any means. If you have a hormonal problem you go to an endocrinologist.