• @[email protected]
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    The musical instrument thing is transitory and depends entirely on the instrument.

    Pre-relationship; in a popular band playing a more traditional instrument like guitar with a bunch of also attractive people (or at least part of a cool local scene) = hot

    In a relationship and/or solo bedroom producing any kind of electronic music and/or buying lots of synthesizers, drum machines or grooveboxes = not hot

    Also note how low “clubbing” is on the least attractive list, so no, DJs and electronic musicians who perform live don’t get a pass

  • Hossenfeffer
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    I do so well on reading and cooking but really let myself down on strangling small animals.

    • @[email protected]
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      It’s a bit of both. I can see these hobbies leading to a healthy relationship, but anyone who thinks the answer isn’t “hit the gym” is coping.

      (Btw I’m no gym rat, but this is a fact)

  • @gcheliotis
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    No one should undertake hobbies because they are attractive to someone else. Unless you want to join groups where you can meet people you’re attracted to, then the activity is just an excuse to mingle. But you are more likely to find a hobby rewarding if you are genuinely interested in it, no matter what others think.

  • @WoodScientist
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    But I only got into woodworking after I met my husband!

  • Noxy
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    I wonder where “gay sex” ranks

  • @[email protected]
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    Does audiobooks count as reading or do I have to have that perfect picture of hipster with beard reading in a cozy cafe?

  • Lorindól
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    I had 10/15 of these when I was single, and I was single for a very long time. That is how I had the time to learn all these hobbies/skills.

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      Right? Just the other day I was thinking about how many hobbies I dropped once I started seriously dating, and then later how many more when I had kids.

      My guitar hasn’t been touched in years. My books have gone unread. My 3D printer is getting a workout making organizational tools and little toys for the kids though lol

      • @BanjoShepard
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        If you see my kayak and fishing poles tell them I miss them and I hope I get to spend more time with them when my son is a few years older.

  • @[email protected]
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    So a foreign manga reader that likes to work their wood whilst drawing furry pics from said manga, and travels to cons to display subsequent art - is the most irresistible person to women?
    (Should probably think about doing some public garden porn photography tbh)

    That does make sense.

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    Lmfao

    Let’s see: I love reading, I am learning French, I paint, I write, I enjoy a bit o astronomy, I am an archer, and I have learned how to blacksmith.

    Yeah this is just a list of activities with no correlation to attractiveness whatsoever

    Edit: let me be clear, I’ve learned to blacksmith the cheating way with propane or natural gas AND the good old fashioned hand cranked coal fired away meant to coat your lungs with soot like a real man. And make sure you bring the borax cause we gonna do some welds

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        I mean, I’m apparently good enough to at least have one kid, so I got that going for me. Wasn’t an accident or anything either.

        But I at least have a well paying job so I got that going for me, which is nice.

        Plus, if generalize all women to be like my ex, I don’t want to date again. So being ugly ain’t all bad

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    Judging by what I see on dating sites, fishing is near the bottom of the list. So many women’s profiles say something like “I don’t want to see a picture of you holding a fish”

    • @[email protected]
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      It’s that men don’t take a lot of pictures of themselves. Then they refuse to take any specifically for their dating profiles. Taking pictures specifically for a dating profile would show that they actually care about finding a person they would do other things specifically for.

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        Taking pictures specifically for a dating profile would show that they actually care about finding a person they would do other things specifically for.

        This is a dead giveaway that you’ve never asked men why they don’t take and share pictures of themselves. Most men in the anglosphere consider it vain and self-destructive to obsess over their looks. You can also see it in the way they buy clothes (“I’ll take 5 pairs of the same pants, thanks”), the way they cut their hair (“just take an inch off and even it out”), and the way they present themselves, often with as few accessories and adornments as possible. Those they do have are utilitarian or deeply personal.

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          I mean yea, there’s no point in faking all that (having fancy hair, fancy pants) to have a relationship that’s based on lies and that will crumble the instant you show your true self

      • @[email protected]
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        I just don’t want pictures of myself on the internet. I value my privacy. Huge part of the reason I never had a dating profile.

      • @Fosheze
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        It’s that men don’t take a lot of pictures of themselves.

        I can’t speak for all men but I have a complete inability to look even remotely normal if I know a picture is being taken of me. I try to take profile pics and they all wind up awful and that’s not just my view. I showed my friend just to make sure it wasn’t just poor self image talking and they reacted like I was showing off a broken bone. I think the only way I’m going to get workable dating profile pics is if I have a friend take pictures of me without me noticing like I’m some sort of cryptid and they’retrying to capture proof.

      • @Whats_your_reasoning
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        Unfortunately, the fact that they don’t take many pictures of themselves can be really obvious. I try not to turn a guy down because of a bad profile picture, because I know there’s a technique to it and that requires practice.

        At the same time, we’re in a digital era - you can take 100 pictures and only upload your favorite one. There’s no reason for an average guy’s profile picture to resemble a mugshot.

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      I wonder if it is fishing itself that they don’t like, or if it is the prevalence of fishing photos on dating sites. I know that a lot of guys post fishing photos on their profiles (probably because most men don’t take many photos of themselves but will take photos with a nice catch), so maybe it just seems unoriginal or low effort. I’m honestly not sure, but my only point is that it may not be the hobby itself.

      • @pool_spray_098
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        Agreed, I really don’t think it’s the fishing itself.

        Half the problem on any dating site is the classic: 1. Be attractive 2. Don’t be unattractive.

        If the dude is holding a fish but looks like Chris Evans, she will probably still be interested.

        On top of that, dudes holding the fish will overwhelmingly tend to look like the wrap around sunglasses wearing, goatee having, overweight, Trump voting cliche. Women probably build an association to not being compatible with dudes who love fishing after enough times of seeing that and connecting these dots.

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        I assumed it was a combination of “it’s really common” and “fish are gross” but I don’t look at men’s profiles and don’t fish so I may be way off

    • @Wogi
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      It’s like 95% of male profiles. Bad selfies and the only picture of them taken by someone else is them holding a fish.

  • @captainlezbian
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    I’m not into guys but as a woman I’m surprised blacksmithing isn’t higher. How am I supposed to be your knight in shining armor if you can’t make me some shining armor?

    • @gdog05
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      It’s going to be boob armor and just leather straps to attach it over a bikini.

      • @captainlezbian
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        Jokes on you I’m down to model that sort of thing for women

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      If you were into guys and said that on our first date, I’d be there on our second!

      I’m getting a bit tired of home automation as a hobby anyway - i don’t meet many new people inside my home. 3D printing was next on my list but then I’d have to collect WarHammer miniatures

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      I’ve forged everything from aluminum to Waspaloy, from handheld to car-sized.

      Unfortunately, I used an industrial press and lots of math. Not sexy. What respondents really mean is hipsters with an anvil. Then you’re wearing an apron with no shirt, sweating, and smashing something hard and repeatedly.

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    Getting high and playing video games?

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        Ok, but most of those shouldn’t even be considered hobbies. Like poker can be a hobby but if your hobby is just “gambling” then you probably have an issue. I guess your hobby could be porn if you’re in the kink scene and into making porn or something, but while watching porn is ok, if you consider watching porn a hobby then you may have an issue.

      • @Twoafros
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        How can reading be no 1 most attractive and comic books are on the unattractive side of the list?

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          If you’re genuine: reading brings to mind books, and people might see books as intellectual but comics as geeky/childish

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          I think it’s collecting vs reading. I’m a lady and read comics, well graphic novels, I don’t buy the individual issues. Half my bookshelf is graphic novels trade paperbacks. But I do not collect, trade, sell, I don’t think of them like that, they are for reading and enjoying.

          Collecting I can see as an unattractive trait because it’s too close to hoarding.

          • Edgarallenpwn
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            Whew that was a close one. I started reading comics again a few years ago and only have been getting TPB or HCs. Who has space for boxes of singles?

      • riquisimo
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        …11% of women find men who watch pornography attractive?

        12% of women find men who argue online attractive?

        23% of women are into cryptobros??

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          Watch porn, or make porn? I know a few friends who would find latter attractive. Not so much the former.

        • @SkunkWorkz
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          Plenty of women watch porn themselves. These 11% are not hypocrites.

        • zea
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          I think this is from a survey, so keep in mind that its people reading and answering questions. Some number of people always interpret it a different way or misread.

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        They just hate when men have fun >:(

      • @Ultraviolet
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        Textbook Lizardman Constant right there at the bottom.

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        Arguing Online: Women are just not ready for Skankhunt42

        Cosplay: Yeah I bet it’s equally least attractive the other way around lmao

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        If I wasn’t already partnered this list would bother me

    • @[email protected]
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      To be fair, I enjoy both these things but I don’t know that I would classify them as hobbies, more as something I do to wind down. I can see video games going into hobby or even profession territory but THC is just a medicine for me. A hobby is something that needs to challenge me, in which I learn things and get better at it.

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        I make mods for video games. It actually pays out too, I make a few hundred a year. It’s basically computer parts money lol.

        Does that count as a hobby? I’m afraid to ask, women are pretty judgy about this stuff.

  • @Aeao
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    I used to work at a leather shop. I can say alot of women find that pretty attractive. Too bad I’m asexual.