I’m in my early 30’s and I’ve literally always been curious about this. I’ve never in my life had the ability to feel sexual pleasure. I’ve never been on any meds or had any sort of traumatic experiences…it’s just the way I’ve always been even if I try. I’m old enough to say that I’m way beyond simply being a “late bloomer”. It’s just something I’ll never experience.

But it often feels like I’m missing a minor sense like taste or smell or something. Everyone has always raved about the taste of dessert, but I’ve never been able to understand or experience it. Can you describe it in detail it for me? Not just the mental part, but the physical part as well?

Thank you.

Sincerely, An Outsider

  • @garbagebagel
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    111 hours ago

    I’m not here to tell you who you are or anything but the feelings you mention are similar to some asexual experiences. I’m ace myself and enjoy masturbation or sex in some very specific settings, but generally it doesn’t feel like much to me, it’s just like a very generic sense of like “something is touching my skin”.

    In the specific settings, it does feel like something more than just physical touch, and I can actually trigger those same sensations without physical touch most of the time. To explain it? Idk it kind of feels like I’m floating.