The amount of times women told me after a conversation that they appreciate me being just friendly and not hitting on them is kinda worrying. We humans create so many problems for ourselves…
We’re the most intelligent species on the planet and we have the most complicated mating rituals that are constantly evolving through time and across cultures. It’s very frustrating but it is what it is!
There’s definitely plenty of that sort of behaviour going on. But there’s also plenty of people who are just lonely and prone to misinterpreting signals in a biased way. It’s possible to have compassion for lonely people without excusing bad behaviour.
Emotionally stunted men cannot tell the difference between being friendly and wanting to fuck because that’s the only strong positive emotion they were ever truly allowed to feel as kids/teenagers.
It’s a huge cultural issue, and we can all thank toxic masculinity and the patriarchy for not allowing boys to have feelings or deep platonic relationships and then growing up to misinterpret any friendly interaction as a romantic advance.
Saying it’s just “wanting to fuck” is also toxic masculinity. When someone I’m attracted to is friendly with me I don’t imagine us fucking, I imagine cuddling and talking all night and supporting each other. And I’ve seen women have the same reaction to attractive men talking to them. Physical attraction is obviously part of it but it’s not always or even mostly the case, at least in my experience.
Life pro tip, you’re probably more likely to find a mate if you’re not scaring all the potential mates away. Make friends, and if you enjoy spending time together, ask if they’d be interested in something more formal (e.g. a date).
The amount of times women told me after a conversation that they appreciate me being just friendly and not hitting on them is kinda worrying. We humans create so many problems for ourselves…
We’re the most intelligent species on the planet and we have the most complicated mating rituals that are constantly evolving through time and across cultures. It’s very frustrating but it is what it is!
You would think with so much intelligence we wouldnt force ourselves onto others that dont want it and would respect them…
Intelligence has nothing to do with morality.
There’s definitely plenty of that sort of behaviour going on. But there’s also plenty of people who are just lonely and prone to misinterpreting signals in a biased way. It’s possible to have compassion for lonely people without excusing bad behaviour.
Emotionally stunted men cannot tell the difference between being friendly and wanting to fuck because that’s the only strong positive emotion they were ever truly allowed to feel as kids/teenagers.
It’s a huge cultural issue, and we can all thank toxic masculinity and the patriarchy for not allowing boys to have feelings or deep platonic relationships and then growing up to misinterpret any friendly interaction as a romantic advance.
Saying it’s just “wanting to fuck” is also toxic masculinity. When someone I’m attracted to is friendly with me I don’t imagine us fucking, I imagine cuddling and talking all night and supporting each other. And I’ve seen women have the same reaction to attractive men talking to them. Physical attraction is obviously part of it but it’s not always or even mostly the case, at least in my experience.
Nice try but you’re not
followingfooling anyone, AI_toothbrush!Edit: damn autocorrect
Lol old username i started using before all the ai shit blew up into everyones faces. Also, how do i know youre real 🤨
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Life pro tip, you’re probably more likely to find a mate if you’re not scaring all the potential mates away. Make friends, and if you enjoy spending time together, ask if they’d be interested in something more formal (e.g. a date).