May but maybe not. Growing up with a friend of mine, he used to do stuff like that with girls he liked. He had a rigid schedule, text length, call, and dates routine he planned in advance. He treated himself like a commodity and tried to maximize positive value without becoming cloy. He had a strong intuitive understanding that people most want what they cannot have, but remains on their mind most. He had the discipline to stick to his plan too. It would not surprise me if that was his car.
His wife is WAY out if his league. If it wasn’t for that, I’d tend to agree. He has been super successful in life doing sales and marketing, so I wouldn’t buck the idea. It isn’t me, but it is an interesting tool to be aware of in life.
Just because someone is a sociopath doesn’t automatically mean they’re a bad person. Just means they’re more likely to have flexible morals depending on the situation.
Fair enough. The original comment that the person you replied to, replied to, made it seem like sociopathy was inherently negative so I assumed you felt the same. My apologies. I just wanted to let people know that just because someone is a sociopath doesn’t mean they’re inherently evil.
It sounds horrifying to me still to be honest. I dunno how his wives being hot (is that what we are talking about?) really changes that.
I just don’t see how the „success“ alleviates the self-commodification and how regimenting your whole life based on some ideas around extracting highest value sounds like a pleasant life?
But sure, if you do relationships to extract value out of it, then maybe that is a reasonable way to go at it and maybe you even get together with pretty people that makes it worth it for you. if this was me I would still ask myself what the fuck am I doing this for, but maybe thats just my existentialism talking.
Taking one cherry picked metric as a anything more is insane and your lack of reasoning scope is appalling. Please block me as I have done you. I find interaction with you unpleasant and undesirable.
I guess Im sorry if my phrasing made that feel very combative, which is not how I intended it.
I didn‘t know it was common courtesy to tell people you block them though, so have a good one.
WTF is with your tone? Effectiveness means more empirically than opinion or perception of anyone. Perhaps I am bad at explaining or perhaps he is or perhaps culture is stupid and out of check with reality. It doesn’t matter to me. Exceptional results speak for themselves with a higher truth.
Effectiveness? At what, tricking people? Getting someone who’s “hot”, as if that’s the main measurement of a good partner. I dunno man, the whole thing seems shady and you justifying it as “effective” comes across creepy.
He had a rigid schedule, text length, call, and dates routine he planned in advance.
That sounds like something I’d do, just for a different reason. I don’t know good limits, so I’d try to find a proper functional balance and then try to stick to it in a manner of “Don’t touch it if it works” in attempt to make sure I am not doing too much or too little.
Especially with texts and calls.
Calls I usually try to end ASAP. I can’t think fast enough, and usually people don’t follow my pre-planned scripts, and buying time with “Sorry, could you repeat that?” gets awkward when you do it 5+ times in a row following each sentence. Furthermore it gets worse when I actually don’t understand what was said.
On the other hand, my texts can grow long and boring, often getting off-topic too. So I should have some limit to try to fit into. And perhaps some time limit too, because my brain can get far off topic too. I mean, it can start with me verifying some information to make sure I am not spreading false info, then I notice something else, and before you know it, I am upgrading the version of NGINX, re-compiling fancyindex and updating the module version in nginx.conf before finishing let’s say a text about my disappointment on food handling practices at work.
If you mean ADHD, yeah, I got diagnosed as a kid. I know at the time they also tried various meds with me, but everything just made things worse one way or another, though I don’t remember the specifics.
May but maybe not. Growing up with a friend of mine, he used to do stuff like that with girls he liked. He had a rigid schedule, text length, call, and dates routine he planned in advance. He treated himself like a commodity and tried to maximize positive value without becoming cloy. He had a strong intuitive understanding that people most want what they cannot have, but remains on their mind most. He had the discipline to stick to his plan too. It would not surprise me if that was his car.
Jesus Christ, that sounds almost sociopathic in a way.
His wife is WAY out if his league. If it wasn’t for that, I’d tend to agree. He has been super successful in life doing sales and marketing, so I wouldn’t buck the idea. It isn’t me, but it is an interesting tool to be aware of in life.
Considering sociopathic people tend to excel at sales and marketing, that doesn’t really rule it out.
Just because someone is a sociopath doesn’t automatically mean they’re a bad person. Just means they’re more likely to have flexible morals depending on the situation.
Source: Am a sociopath.
I agree and never made that claim.
Fair enough. The original comment that the person you replied to, replied to, made it seem like sociopathy was inherently negative so I assumed you felt the same. My apologies. I just wanted to let people know that just because someone is a sociopath doesn’t mean they’re inherently evil.
Yeah I get it, all good.
It sounds horrifying to me still to be honest. I dunno how his wives being hot (is that what we are talking about?) really changes that.
I just don’t see how the „success“ alleviates the self-commodification and how regimenting your whole life based on some ideas around extracting highest value sounds like a pleasant life?
But sure, if you do relationships to extract value out of it, then maybe that is a reasonable way to go at it and maybe you even get together with pretty people that makes it worth it for you. if this was me I would still ask myself what the fuck am I doing this for, but maybe thats just my existentialism talking.
Yeah if you’re not being genuine what’s the point
Taking one cherry picked metric as a anything more is insane and your lack of reasoning scope is appalling. Please block me as I have done you. I find interaction with you unpleasant and undesirable.
Sure,
I guess Im sorry if my phrasing made that feel very combative, which is not how I intended it. I didn‘t know it was common courtesy to tell people you block them though, so have a good one.
So because his wife is out of his league, it’s not sociopathic to you? The fuck?
WTF is with your tone? Effectiveness means more empirically than opinion or perception of anyone. Perhaps I am bad at explaining or perhaps he is or perhaps culture is stupid and out of check with reality. It doesn’t matter to me. Exceptional results speak for themselves with a higher truth.
WTF is with you justifying sociopathic actions based on their effectiveness?
Effectiveness? At what, tricking people? Getting someone who’s “hot”, as if that’s the main measurement of a good partner. I dunno man, the whole thing seems shady and you justifying it as “effective” comes across creepy.
That sounds like something I’d do, just for a different reason. I don’t know good limits, so I’d try to find a proper functional balance and then try to stick to it in a manner of “Don’t touch it if it works” in attempt to make sure I am not doing too much or too little.
Especially with texts and calls.
Calls I usually try to end ASAP. I can’t think fast enough, and usually people don’t follow my pre-planned scripts, and buying time with “Sorry, could you repeat that?” gets awkward when you do it 5+ times in a row following each sentence. Furthermore it gets worse when I actually don’t understand what was said.
On the other hand, my texts can grow long and boring, often getting off-topic too. So I should have some limit to try to fit into. And perhaps some time limit too, because my brain can get far off topic too. I mean, it can start with me verifying some information to make sure I am not spreading false info, then I notice something else, and before you know it, I am upgrading the version of NGINX, re-compiling fancyindex and updating the module version in nginx.conf before finishing let’s say a text about my disappointment on food handling practices at work.
Edit: Fixed mistake (double words)
Got your diagnosis yet? I wasn’t diagnosed until last year at 41.
If you mean ADHD, yeah, I got diagnosed as a kid. I know at the time they also tried various meds with me, but everything just made things worse one way or another, though I don’t remember the specifics.