• @CuddlyCassowary
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    121 day ago

    Not really. Judge for yourself, and follow the legit studies. If you’re already happy, in a good relationship, and in a country (not the US) that heavily supports parenthood, and you’re the father, then at least you might break even.

    (tl:dr) “Parents will always be quick to proclaim the gifts and blessings their children provide, but a more detached appraisal calls into question this conventional wisdom.”

    https://ifstudies.org/blog/does-having-children-make-people-happier-in-the-long-run

    • comador
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      010 hours ago

      Even your own link reiterated everything I said: It depends on the individual and everything else going on in ones life.

      You live in a child oppressive society like Asia or the United States? No shit it’s harder to be happier than without children

      Income, society, your partner, your parents and more importantly: your own ability to endure the ups and downs of it all matter when it comes to your respective happiness as a parent.

      But it comes down to the individual and it’s each individual’s choice, period.

      I am in America, but I also married into a minority group who is immensely supportive. No question my life feels more enriched having had children because I love being with the family my wife and I created.

      Sorry, for the late response, I was enjoying my weekend and my life.

      • @CuddlyCassowary
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        19 hours ago

        This post stated “…as depressed as me” that implies they are looking for kids to pull them out of some level of depression.

        That’s a terrible strategy for everyone involved, but especially the kids. If this was your chosen depression coping strategy three times over, PLUS in the US, I guess good for you, but generally speaking it’s not supported by broad societal studies.

        The article I chose was just a quick search, but there are quite a number of studies that support not using childbirth as a mental health coping mechanism.

        You sound a bit defensive and passive aggressive to me. I hope you are truly, deeply fulfilled and are just having an off day.