Why do people accept those games and manipulation in their relationship? I’ve dealt with some shit in my youth but even in my mid twenties I just decided that’s now how I want my relationships to be. I broke up over a silent treatment once. She was a surprised Pikachu even though I told her if she keeps this up all day til bedtime and refuses to talk it out, I am done.
So after dinner I packed my shit and went to my place.
My current partner and I have agreed to not punish each other with things like silent treatment or love deprevation.
When there is a problem we talk it out. If emotions are getting in the way we try to calm down first with an hour break or so. And we also can disagree and that’s fine. Otherwise we try and find a solution. Together. It’s us versus the issue at hand. Not versus each other.
Coming up on 9 years together and still madly in love.
Bra-fuckin’-vo. No irony here, just kudos from one person to another: you’ve not only found someone compatible, you’ve worked out a way to, well, work the issues out.
And as you’ve said: it’s not one vs the other, it’s you vs the issue at hand. Chef’s kiss
Why do people accept those games and manipulation in their relationship? I’ve dealt with some shit in my youth but even in my mid twenties I just decided that’s now how I want my relationships to be. I broke up over a silent treatment once. She was a surprised Pikachu even though I told her if she keeps this up all day til bedtime and refuses to talk it out, I am done.
So after dinner I packed my shit and went to my place.
My current partner and I have agreed to not punish each other with things like silent treatment or love deprevation.
When there is a problem we talk it out. If emotions are getting in the way we try to calm down first with an hour break or so. And we also can disagree and that’s fine. Otherwise we try and find a solution. Together. It’s us versus the issue at hand. Not versus each other. Coming up on 9 years together and still madly in love.
Bra-fuckin’-vo. No irony here, just kudos from one person to another: you’ve not only found someone compatible, you’ve worked out a way to, well, work the issues out.
And as you’ve said: it’s not one vs the other, it’s you vs the issue at hand. Chef’s kiss
Congrats. You’re an emotionally mature and aware adult. Most people never get to that stage. Its fucking bewildering.