Wow I am open jaw surprised this top comment wasn’t a “get divorced” comment and instead was actively constructive and empathetic.
I agree that there could be something else going on. Especially the way OP is phrasing things. Could be ADD or other issues that make these days not priority even if they do love OP. could also be that OP is feeling some sort of way and their actions make the partner not feel confident enough to do things for them like it’ll be a waste. Hopefully they can find the root cause. Maybe needs a shared calendar to help remind.
I have, many times, and nothing changes, always an excuse, they forgot or were distracted by something more important. Hence why I have completely given up trying to plan anything. Like talking to a brick wall. Things only happen when I take the initiative. Special days, house repairs, appointments…
My dear I hope you can take a moment to reflect on how you ended up with this person and if it was for good reasons you remember that and work your way back there instead of giving up and just complaining into the void.
Have you talked to your SO about how that makes you feel?
Wow I am open jaw surprised this top comment wasn’t a “get divorced” comment and instead was actively constructive and empathetic.
I agree that there could be something else going on. Especially the way OP is phrasing things. Could be ADD or other issues that make these days not priority even if they do love OP. could also be that OP is feeling some sort of way and their actions make the partner not feel confident enough to do things for them like it’ll be a waste. Hopefully they can find the root cause. Maybe needs a shared calendar to help remind.
I have, many times, and nothing changes, always an excuse, they forgot or were distracted by something more important. Hence why I have completely given up trying to plan anything. Like talking to a brick wall. Things only happen when I take the initiative. Special days, house repairs, appointments…
My dear I hope you can take a moment to reflect on how you ended up with this person and if it was for good reasons you remember that and work your way back there instead of giving up and just complaining into the void.
Resentment is a killer.
… Are you happy at least?..
Clearly not. lol
Sounds like depression. The lack of initiation, I mean
Likely either a contributing factor or a symptom.
Either way, emotional abandonment is a fix-it or GTFO thing eventually.