How does nobody get this? The commenter isn’t saying “proposing without jewlery is wild” she’s saying “two people so broke they are making commitments to each other when they can’t even afford to spend some money on a simple tradition that’s been around for generations.” It’s the not being able to afford it part she is referring to not the jewelry itself
Edit: obviously yall are idiots and someone else can explain it better than me if they want
So in her opinion poor people shouldn’t get married or have relationships? That’s some rather odd gatekeeping.
If we ignore the useless traditions around marriage and won’t feed this overpriced industry. It’s completely possible to get married rather cheaply and it will not effect the marriage.
I’m fairly sure that this particular marriage will last longer and be much better than many of the ones that spend completely insane amounts or even worse go into dept to get married.
i found a stunning ring on etsy that only cost 400 (the most i can spare for now)…there are options, and diamonds are overrated and i dont trust the “ethical sources” claims that big jewellers give
Only costing and triple digit numbers don’t go together in the same sentence.
Marriage is just a legally binding contract, there’s nothing special about it. We don’t spend significant amounts of money when singing a NDA or employment contract or even just clicking “agree” in the terms and conditions contract.
The generous take might be that they’re just being realistic and blunt about marriage: historically and even in many modern social contexts, marriage is more an expression of resource security/stability than an expression of love.
It’s not how we like to talk about marriage–the motivations, values, and ideals that make marriage meaningful… But sociologically, security/stability typically plays a pretty big role.
Poor people can do whatever they want the point is if you can’t take care of yourself then your can’t take care of your partner and you shouldn’t promise anyone shit until you can afford to keep yourself alive after spending some money on jewelry
How does nobody get this? The commenter isn’t saying “proposing without jewlery is wild” she’s saying “two people so broke they are making commitments to each other when they can’t even afford to spend some money on a simple tradition that’s been around for generations.” It’s the not being able to afford it part she is referring to not the jewelry itself
Edit: obviously yall are idiots and someone else can explain it better than me if they want
I encourage you to look at the price of engagement rings and wedding bands, homie.
So in her opinion poor people shouldn’t get married or have relationships? That’s some rather odd gatekeeping.
If we ignore the useless traditions around marriage and won’t feed this overpriced industry. It’s completely possible to get married rather cheaply and it will not effect the marriage.
I’m fairly sure that this particular marriage will last longer and be much better than many of the ones that spend completely insane amounts or even worse go into dept to get married.
i found a stunning ring on etsy that only cost 400 (the most i can spare for now)…there are options, and diamonds are overrated and i dont trust the “ethical sources” claims that big jewellers give
Only costing and triple digit numbers don’t go together in the same sentence.
Marriage is just a legally binding contract, there’s nothing special about it. We don’t spend significant amounts of money when singing a NDA or employment contract or even just clicking “agree” in the terms and conditions contract.
it is special to my partner so i am going to make it special for her
The generous take might be that they’re just being realistic and blunt about marriage: historically and even in many modern social contexts, marriage is more an expression of resource security/stability than an expression of love.
It’s not how we like to talk about marriage–the motivations, values, and ideals that make marriage meaningful… But sociologically, security/stability typically plays a pretty big role.
Who says they’re broke
We do get this, but we have differing opinions.
It’s a stupid and pointless tradition impulsed by a marketing agency.
I get what you’re saying but also, shouldn’t poor people be allowed to get married if they want?
It’s really inexpensive to get the paperwork done at the courthouse.
Like, why try to gatekeep love behind physical wealth?
Poor people can do whatever they want the point is if you can’t take care of yourself then your can’t take care of your partner and you shouldn’t promise anyone shit until you can afford to keep yourself alive after spending some money on jewelry
I think you’re taking a huge leap on what in all likelihood is some made up shit that not buying a ring = not able to care for one another.
Anyways, I hope your day is going and goes well. Take care.
What a stupid take.