• pjwestin
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    3 days ago

    My wife has always told me that women really just want a guy who is nice to them and doesn’t smell, and monosphere weirdos keep telling them to do the opposite.

    • Blackmist@feddit.uk
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      Well you’re not going keep a small army of incels addicted to “content” and dubious financial apps signed up to via affiliate links if you get them all laid now, are you?

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      I’ve read my fair share of romance novels by women and it’s common to describe the main love interest as smelling like freshly clean laundry lol. Literally just show up clean with clean clothes on. It’s not more complicated than that.

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        This is a good source. Women talking to women without men around, which is what romance novels are in essence.

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      Your wife is being disingenuous with you. Nice isn’t what women are attracted to.

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        Technically true. Fun and interesting are what most people are attracted to regardless of gender. People also are particularly prone to developing attraction to people they feel good being around.

        Kindness is however a prerequisite for a large portion of women (and an absolute no go for plenty of other women, because people). The ones who want kindness are much better partners

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          100 percent disagree. The number one thing that women consider in a long term partner is financial stability. People confuse “kind to me” as kind. The shittiest rich people have the most partners. People are attracted to power and success. The stories come along after.

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            Some people are. It’s also a question of what the man wants - a lot of shitty short term partners, or one (or a small number) of hight quality long term partners. The latter is better achieved by being kind to the partner.

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        By telling you to trust virgin men instead of women on matters of what said women think, said virgin men fried your understanding of the world forever.

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          Nah, your just not bright. You don’t like science.

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        Well, I was nice to her, and now I’m married, so… ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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            OK, well then I’m glad I said, “be nice to them,” not, “be a nice person in your heart of hearts.”

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              Well then you’re just manipulating the other person. Back to the disingenuous acts. But that’s OK.

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        oh here we go. with the nice guys. yeah, be an aggro butthole, lay out the insults, they LOVE IT! buddy. you’ve been sold the garbage and you’re eating it.

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          That’s a lot of projection, I never said any of that. All I said was that being a nice person isn’t what attracts mates.

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            5 hours ago

            did you try pissing your pants to attract a mate?

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              No because then you’d smell like piss. Do you pee your pants?