Even messy rooms can have a system. My desk is full of stuff, but it’s actually just three piles on three sturdy things (so they don’t collapse when you pick them up) that I need to move over to my bed to use my desk. I also need to relocate my Blahaj because he sleeps on my chair, but that’s it. Sometimes I need to move a second chair that has a bunch of boxes on it because I need to move it out of the way when I want to access my weights, so I put it in front of my desk. But it’s simple, really. My sister’s birthday present is getting in the way a bit, but that’s just a temporary issue. So were the plant pots that I always had to move across the room, they were just there until I finally felt like taking them outside, that’s not even three weeks of inconvenience. See? It looks messy, but it’s a very simple system.
tbh I didn’t notice most of it until you drew circles around it. Yeah, that’s kinda messy. And I respect that you went through the effort to draw all the red circles uwu
You don’t need to justify yourself to an internet stranger who has no idea how you live and why your space might look the way it does. It’s none of their fucking business.
I’m not sure if you’re being sarcastic or not, but no, you shouldn’t.
Some people struggle to get up for whatever reason, some people struggle to use a toilet for whatever reason, some people struggle to tidy up for whatever reason, and all of those things and more are impossible for some, for whatever reason (especially when they don’t have a support network).
Could someone not be doing any of those things because they’re “lazy” rather than because they’re neurodiverse and/or otherwise disabled? Maybe, but to assume that’s the case when there are millions of legit reason is a bad ableist take (from the people criticising you).
Unless you’re specifically asking for help with tidying your room, those criticising you for how it looks are being unhelpful judgmental assholes, at best.
To be honest, I was being sarcastic with my last comment, but I really appreciate that you have such a compassionate attitude. I struggle with keeping my place clean and can only convince myself to tidy up for maybe an hour every few weeks, so I have sympathy for whoever took the photo in the OP. It’s far from problematic in my case because I just don’t have that much stuff, but I still feel ashamed when I look at a pile of boxes that I could’ve thrown away weeks ago or the layers of dust on my shelves. Even installing a new SSD in my computer (something I was really excited about) took me two or three weeks because, idk, I just couldn’t get up and do it even though I use my computer almost every day. Joking about it has become a coping mechanism.
Anyway, I’m rambling. Thank you for being so kind :3
And I know it’s easier said than done because I struggle with it too - but try to be kinder to yourself.
Being diagnosed autistic as an adult explained so much of my life, as did understanding mental illness and neurodiversity more. Executive dysfunction on its own can wreak havoc on your life, never mind added depression, a bunch of PTSD and cPTSD, and physical disability… Realising that I wasn’t “lazy” like I’d been told all my life, but actually legitimately struggling with a whole load of obstructive shit (that leads to such nonsense as both hoarding tendencies and OCD, as well as like you, keeps me from things I actually want to do because just getting to it is too difficult for reasons), has helped a lot towards at least trying to not be so hard on myself, though the negative voices these kinds of judgmental comments leave to knock about in your brain stay there like a live in bully that’s really hard to silence (edit to clarify: because internalising it means it becomes your own voice in your head bullying you).
Which is why I hate it so much when people make them. They have no idea what the person they’re judging is dealing with, and unless they’re going to be there to help every day to keep on top of things, or at the very least pay for a cleaner and some therapy, they should just shut up.
Clean your room
Even messy rooms can have a system. My desk is full of stuff, but it’s actually just three piles on three sturdy things (so they don’t collapse when you pick them up) that I need to move over to my bed to use my desk. I also need to relocate my Blahaj because he sleeps on my chair, but that’s it. Sometimes I need to move a second chair that has a bunch of boxes on it because I need to move it out of the way when I want to access my weights, so I put it in front of my desk. But it’s simple, really. My sister’s birthday present is getting in the way a bit, but that’s just a temporary issue. So were the plant pots that I always had to move across the room, they were just there until I finally felt like taking them outside, that’s not even three weeks of inconvenience. See? It looks messy, but it’s a very simple system.
You say system, but all I see is trash
tbh I didn’t notice most of it until you drew circles around it. Yeah, that’s kinda messy. And I respect that you went through the effort to draw all the red circles uwu
I have the same bucket. It’s a trash can thing actually. But it’s super soft, so it breaks easily.
Nah this is just messy (and dirty (zoom in))
You don’t need to justify yourself to an internet stranger who has no idea how you live and why your space might look the way it does. It’s none of their fucking business.
That’s right, I will not be shamed for my piss bottles 😤
I’m not sure if you’re being sarcastic or not, but no, you shouldn’t.
Some people struggle to get up for whatever reason, some people struggle to use a toilet for whatever reason, some people struggle to tidy up for whatever reason, and all of those things and more are impossible for some, for whatever reason (especially when they don’t have a support network).
Could someone not be doing any of those things because they’re “lazy” rather than because they’re neurodiverse and/or otherwise disabled? Maybe, but to assume that’s the case when there are millions of legit reason is a bad ableist take (from the people criticising you).
Unless you’re specifically asking for help with tidying your room, those criticising you for how it looks are being unhelpful judgmental assholes, at best.
To be honest, I was being sarcastic with my last comment, but I really appreciate that you have such a compassionate attitude. I struggle with keeping my place clean and can only convince myself to tidy up for maybe an hour every few weeks, so I have sympathy for whoever took the photo in the OP. It’s far from problematic in my case because I just don’t have that much stuff, but I still feel ashamed when I look at a pile of boxes that I could’ve thrown away weeks ago or the layers of dust on my shelves. Even installing a new SSD in my computer (something I was really excited about) took me two or three weeks because, idk, I just couldn’t get up and do it even though I use my computer almost every day. Joking about it has become a coping mechanism.
Anyway, I’m rambling. Thank you for being so kind :3
You’re welcome.
And I know it’s easier said than done because I struggle with it too - but try to be kinder to yourself.
Being diagnosed autistic as an adult explained so much of my life, as did understanding mental illness and neurodiversity more. Executive dysfunction on its own can wreak havoc on your life, never mind added depression, a bunch of PTSD and cPTSD, and physical disability… Realising that I wasn’t “lazy” like I’d been told all my life, but actually legitimately struggling with a whole load of obstructive shit (that leads to such nonsense as both hoarding tendencies and OCD, as well as like you, keeps me from things I actually want to do because just getting to it is too difficult for reasons), has helped a lot towards at least trying to not be so hard on myself, though the negative voices these kinds of judgmental comments leave to knock about in your brain stay there like a live in bully that’s really hard to silence (edit to clarify: because internalising it means it becomes your own voice in your head bullying you).
Which is why I hate it so much when people make them. They have no idea what the person they’re judging is dealing with, and unless they’re going to be there to help every day to keep on top of things, or at the very least pay for a cleaner and some therapy, they should just shut up.