If the average American were asked what they imagine the priorities of the feminist movement are these days, most people would likely cite concerns like “fighting abortion bans” or “getting justice for sexual violence victims” or boring mainstays like “equal pay for equal work.” But if you listen in to the world of right-wing social media influencers, they have a different answer. To them, feminists are single-mindedly obsessed with destroying women who identify as “tradwives.”
There is when they refuse to acknowledge it’s a kink. And when they try to push it on others.
Oh, and it usually involves children, which means they’re bringing non-consenting minors into their kink. No, I would shame the fuck out of them if I thought they could feel shame.
Exactly, the whole point of a kink is you take a desire for something potentially very bad or toxic (either for yourself or others) and you encapsulate it in a consensual fantasy bubble in order to act it out and fulfill those desires.
A kink is sexy because of the careful intentionality of taking a strong desire within yourself and disentangling it from your worldview, politics, and fundamental values so that you can act it out in a liberating fantasy that doesn’t need to reconcile its inconsistencies with the rest of yourself, it can just be and that is ok.
Building a whole worldview around a kink is the opposite of sexy because the whole point of a kink is that is sexy af when you know yourself so well that you can extract an irrational desire that would otherwise control whole regions of your life and explore it sexually in order to both feel that desire fulfilled at the deepest level possible and also establish agency over that desire so that it cannot overwhelm your ethics or values.