Your early relationship with your caregivers sets the stage for how you will build relationships as an adult. Your attachment style shows how you relate to other people.
I relate and from the the disorganised parts, I feel that I am developing more into someone wanting to connect with people with a sub component of being terrified of what that connection might bring when I feel like I get too close.
Probably is very conflicting but I guess I have become like that as a defence mechanism of trusting people and that trust being broken a lot as I feel I have trusted people too naively before and people have taken advantage of that.
In response I have probably adjusted to be more open to people to find a connection, have tried to cut back to slow my over-share tendency, tried to be aware of the context and those that survive the “weirdness” I feel guilty that I cannot be a positive influence on their life and would try not to burden them
I guess I have become like that as a defence mechanism of trusting people and that trust being broken a lot as I feel I have trusted people too naively before and people have taken advantage of that.
That makes sense. It’s hard to maintain trust in people if someone takes advantage of you. I hope you continue to move toward connection because humans need other humans.
Thank you for your reply,
I relate and from the the disorganised parts, I feel that I am developing more into someone wanting to connect with people with a sub component of being terrified of what that connection might bring when I feel like I get too close.
Probably is very conflicting but I guess I have become like that as a defence mechanism of trusting people and that trust being broken a lot as I feel I have trusted people too naively before and people have taken advantage of that.
In response I have probably adjusted to be more open to people to find a connection, have tried to cut back to slow my over-share tendency, tried to be aware of the context and those that survive the “weirdness” I feel guilty that I cannot be a positive influence on their life and would try not to burden them
That makes sense. It’s hard to maintain trust in people if someone takes advantage of you. I hope you continue to move toward connection because humans need other humans.