I don’t have children yet, and it might come to pass that I have none, but I have worked with them. I’m an observer type of person. I like to analyze things. I also come from a household where my own voice wasn’t heard. I didn’t learn how to manage my emotions, and as a consequence I’m having to continue to do so well into adulthood.
Kids emotions are raw, intense, and untamed. Yes, they should be listened to, yes their needs should be met- but they also need to understand that the world doesn’t revolve around them and that sometimes they need to wait.
They need to know that they are loved. They need to know that they are important. But again, they need to know that other people are important too. They need to understand that other people’s feelings matter, too. They need to be able to identify when someone else is busy on the phone and come back later to show that cool new drawing they made.
If the parent drops what they are doing each and every time, allows the child to interupt constantly, and leads them to believe that they are the most important person in the room at all times, then what lesson will they take with them into adulthood?
You know those people that start yelling when their starbucks drink is not to their liking? That’s one way that those people are made
You’re not listening to what I am saying. Being told to wait a minute isn’t telling someone the world doesn’t revolve around them. Telling a kid the world doesn’t revolve around them is making a moral stance that that kid doesn’t actually matter, and that is what adults actually mean when they tell kids such. It has all of jack and shit to do with minor petty shit like making a kid wait when you’re on the phone. It’s about why you’re making them wait and how you truly feel about them.
It’s nothing but petty ageist bigotry and I can’t be the only one tired of hearing it.
Yes the world absolutely does revolve around children. Literally everything we do is for them to some extent.
I don’t have children yet, and it might come to pass that I have none, but I have worked with them. I’m an observer type of person. I like to analyze things. I also come from a household where my own voice wasn’t heard. I didn’t learn how to manage my emotions, and as a consequence I’m having to continue to do so well into adulthood.
Kids emotions are raw, intense, and untamed. Yes, they should be listened to, yes their needs should be met- but they also need to understand that the world doesn’t revolve around them and that sometimes they need to wait.
They need to know that they are loved. They need to know that they are important. But again, they need to know that other people are important too. They need to understand that other people’s feelings matter, too. They need to be able to identify when someone else is busy on the phone and come back later to show that cool new drawing they made.
If the parent drops what they are doing each and every time, allows the child to interupt constantly, and leads them to believe that they are the most important person in the room at all times, then what lesson will they take with them into adulthood?
You know those people that start yelling when their starbucks drink is not to their liking? That’s one way that those people are made
You’re not listening to what I am saying. Being told to wait a minute isn’t telling someone the world doesn’t revolve around them. Telling a kid the world doesn’t revolve around them is making a moral stance that that kid doesn’t actually matter, and that is what adults actually mean when they tell kids such. It has all of jack and shit to do with minor petty shit like making a kid wait when you’re on the phone. It’s about why you’re making them wait and how you truly feel about them.
It’s nothing but petty ageist bigotry and I can’t be the only one tired of hearing it.
Yes the world absolutely does revolve around children. Literally everything we do is for them to some extent.
My guess is that perhaps you’re a bit young and inexperienced with the world. It isn’t as black and white or cut and dry as you may think it is.
It certainly doesn’t revolve around children.