• @TrickDacy
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    Probably 75% of marriages like that don’t go well. OP is right.

    • Bunnylux
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      710 months ago

      That doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing though. Divorce doesn’t have to be traumatic, and it should be more normalized.

      • @TrickDacy
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        610 months ago

        Wow, really? Sure is an expensive and necessarily painful thing to opt into or to normalize. I’d rather it be normalized to not get married in the first place.

        • @[email protected]
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          910 months ago

          I think a divorce is like $80 where I am, but if you have to go to court obvs it’s a lot more. I spent almost nothing on my wedding, granted it was just friends and was an elopement. Marriage has big tax advantages for some, and it’s the only way my spouse was getting health insurance to survive this godforsaken wasteland. It also guarantees that they get a slice of my income if the unforeseeable happens and we split so they can survive.

          I think people should not see marriage as the end goal, but be pragmatic about its costs and benefits, which I think you are getting at too

          • Bunnylux
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            110 months ago

            All good points.

        • Bunnylux
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          210 months ago

          It’s not that expensive, I did it for $400 amicably. We had a fun time while married and I don’t regret it. Why not just make it easier for people to do what they want and not punish young people for making decisions.

          • @TrickDacy
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            010 months ago

            And yet it’s costed others (every day) thousands to millions of dollars

      • @[email protected]
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        510 months ago

        Yes and no… Yes, divorce shouldn’t be traumatic. But no, people shouldn’t rush into marriage.

      • M137
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        410 months ago

        Or just be a couple? Save yourselves and everyone else in the families the money and mental energy.