Besides that my parents lived a world apart around the age I am now, I honestly don’t know what their life was like.

  • southsamurai
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    69 months ago

    Well, I’m almost 50, so I was an adult fully my the time my dad hit that mark, and my mom is seven years younger than him.

    I actually know a shit ton about both of them at that age, more than they realize. Small town, and the nearest bigger towns are places I’ve worked, and I know a lot of people in the nearest city. So they got up to some things that they don’t know I know lol.

    They were divorced by that time range, though my mom didn’t move out immediately. I had moved back in at that point as well, and tended to not be home much just to avoid each other more. This was before I bought the house (family home going back a good ways), and my mom moved out not long after she hit 50, to take care of her aunt in her late stage Alzheimer’s.

    Anyway, the area we live in is pretty rural, fairly low population. You really can’t stay in the county and hope to keep things private. With me having been all over the tri-county area between working in home health, and bouncing in the city at some surprising places they didn’t know about, I would hear stories within a day or two. Maybe not the nitty gritty details of all of it, but enough.

    Thing is, for similar reasons (everyone knowing everyone in the area), I’ve always had a fairly good idea of what my parents were like at various ages. My dad’s stint in the Army is a section that I only know about from what he’s said, and my mom’s teenage years were a bit murky because she was a navy brat and stayed off the radar of her parents, so all I have is her stories and my aunt’s.

    But the rest? I was either there, or know someone that was lol.