My dad was the contrasts - when it was great, he was a great man, a great father, and a stellar husband. when it was bad… oof, was it bad. And we still had a relationship. I suspect OP’s example is a real super chud.
Exactly. This person may very well suffer with some degree of narcissism, which would make it impossible to see their own responsibility in the whole thing, hence the projection.
“When I retired I tried to rebond with my kids”
So you were always a bad father.
Exactly. Good parents don’t have to rebond with their kids.
Even mediocre parents. My dad wasn’t that great a parent and we still had a bond until the day he died.
My dad was the contrasts - when it was great, he was a great man, a great father, and a stellar husband. when it was bad… oof, was it bad. And we still had a relationship. I suspect OP’s example is a real super chud.
Exactly. This person may very well suffer with some degree of narcissism, which would make it impossible to see their own responsibility in the whole thing, hence the projection.