Not sure if this is the right community to post this, but I’ll give it a shot.
One of my very good friends is planning on going into the Navy in about a year. He’s generally a moderate left leaning kinda guy, but is trans. He comes from a navy family which is part of the reason he decided to go in the first place. He’s going into mechanics and stuff and not combat which is slightly better I guess, but it’s very concerning to me that he’s planning on joining especially because he’s trans. I also feel that ethically, actively participating in that system is bad.
How can I dissuade him from joining? I don’t wanna go full force argument mode because it’s ultimately his choice but I would like advice on how to softly nudge him away from it without affecting our friendship negatively. Thanks.
Contact a Navy recruiter yourself, anonymously, and just ask them if you’d qualify to enlist, but using your anonymous friend’s basic (non identifying) details. See what they say.
I did this for a friend once, came to find out my friend would have been fined $30,000 for falsifying medical records if they would have tried enlisting.