So I’m a bit of a degenerate but making better choices lately and sort of getting things on track.
My friend had some health issues and had to stop working, my other friend now does all the labour, and he just runs the business.
He then split with his partner who he has children, as frankly he would never be at home and it was always going to happen.
I just found out the health condition has gotten worse and he will have to lose a leg. He never improved his diet, kept hitting the coke hard and gambling. So recently he has gambled away £35,000 and had a breakdown with another friend.
How do I even be there for him and keep him on a good path, providing he is open to change.
All you can reasonably do is help him get in touch with resources to help him recover.
And then, if he gets sober and starts to get his affairs in order, you can be supportive.
But his multiple severe challenges coupled with the fact that he has a family who could be supportive of him if he had been supportive of them lead me to warn you to limit your exposure here.
It’s too much and you’ll get overwhelmed, even if he’s able to cope.
But being a supportive friend, knowing he has someone in his life who hasn’t fully written him off can still be valuable.