Most of us on Lemmy are nerds in many ways, it’s part of why we’re on something like Lemmy as opposed to the more narcissistic social media platforms.

However many of us are cool sociable people, or extremely capable in something that others look up to us for, we just have nerdy hobbies or careers or tendencies, what are those traits or abilities that make others enjoy being around us or look up to us or would otherwise be described as “cool”?

  • Scrubbles
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    6610 months ago

    Life gets a lot easier when you stop worrying about what is cool and what isn’t.

    • @rhacer
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      1510 months ago

      Took me until college to sort that out. And that was 40 years ago so I have more not caring than caring in my timeline. That’s a good thing.

  • @[email protected]
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    2110 months ago

    However many of us are cool sociable people

    [citation needed] /j

    I have a group of nerd friends. I’m mostly known as “that guy that talks about Rust (the programming language) way too much”. I suspect I’m not qualified to answer in this thread :P

    • @[email protected]
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      610 months ago

      Rust, the iron oxide, is also very interesting. Did you know that the Mianus river bridge in 1983, the Silver Bridge bridge in 1967, and the Kinzua Bridge in 2003, all collapsed because of rust? Don’t even get me started on bridges.

    • @[email protected]
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      310 months ago

      What’s your favourite thing about Rust? I’m especially down for hearing any ridiculously idiosyncratic opinions you have on this

      • @[email protected]
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        310 months ago

        I think honestly the biggest thing is just the fact that it has sum types. Sum types is just such a godsend. I don’t know how I could ever program again and enjoy it if I don’t have sum types. It’s seriously such a shame that older historical languages (many of them OOP languages) didn’t use this concept.

        Many of these older languages are strongly typed but because there are no sum types, the type system is awkward and cumbersome and you have to resort to inheritance to kind of emulate it in a bad way.

        This have given strongly typed languages a bad reputation the last many years and since then dynamically typed languages have gotten more popular - essentially because dynamically typed languages have sum types because you can change the type of any value at runtime whenever you want.

        It’s such a shame because people think they don’t like strongly typed languages - but actually they just don’t like strongly typed languages that lack sum types.

        Sum types is the future and we should never use dynamically typed languages for serious professional large-scale software engineering ever again.

        • @Adalast
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          310 months ago

          How do you feel Rust compares to Python? I do a lot of Data Science coding but have thus far primarily used Python and Pandas to accomplish most of what I need to do. I’ve gotten it working pretty smoothly, but I am seeing Rust on a lot of job postings so I have been thinking of trying it out.

          • @[email protected]
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            110 months ago

            How do you feel Rust compares to Python?

            I mean, they are very different languages. Python is an interpreted, dynamically-typed language that is known to be quite slow. Rust is basically the opposite; a natively compiled, strongly typed language.

            I would say Python really is a scripting language and you shouldn’t use it for more than that - small scripts is where it shines, because you can get something running quickly and you probably don’t care if it’s super reliable or maintainable. And as long as the scripts are small, they are automatically easy to change because they’re small. Problem is that Python is “easy to learn” so lots of people know it so lots of companies use it. This leads to lots of problems if you ask me. Python is easy to learn, but that’s only because Python does basically nothing to help you create a proper, reliable and nicely structured program.

            Rust is hard to learn, but it pushes you towards much better habits and it forces you to build better programs. These benefits feel cumbersome in the start, especially when you’re learning and you’re building small programs. Small programs is not when these benefits really start kicking in.

            However, if you are working on a large system, the difference between Python and Rust is insane. Rust will help you so much. You change 1 line out of 1 million lines and Rust will tell you exactly where your change breaks other code, which will lead you to fix those other places. Meanwhile, if you change 1 of 1 million lines in Python, you need to pray that there are tests that catch whatever problems your change may have caused (spoiler: there probably aren’t).

            So in my opinion, if you are doing serious professional software engineering for an employer where you are not the only one working on the code… Rust just provides so much more stability and reliability than Python.

            You might be interested in Polars, which is kinda a successor to Pandas written in Rust (can also be used from Python).

            • @Adalast
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              210 months ago

              I will take a look at Polaris. I started out in C and C++ years ago, so I all no stranger to strong typing. The Python devs have realized that there needs to be ways to add strong typing, so you can now explicitly type inputs and outputs to functions, which helps a lot. Also, there are places where other companies have implemented things in Python, so you are somewhat pigeonholed into using Python or reverting back to the C++ SDK for them, which can be a nightmare in its own right. Lucky for me I am the only one really touching the code I am working on and it is all bespoke, but someone will need to maintain it later so I have been taking to the strong typing in my recent work.

              I will have to take a look at Rust some more and see how it feels. Thanks for the analysis.

              • @[email protected]
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                110 months ago

                If you’re familiar with C++ and C, Rust should be easy to learn. It’s basically just enforcing all the stuff you shouldn’t do in C/C++ - double free, too early free (dangling pointers), reading and writing to stuff from two different threads at the same time (data race). And at the same time modernizing the whole experience (actually useful compiler error messages, easy and convenient dependencies that “just work” without having to worry about a build system, in-built test system, etc.)

                • @Adalast
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                  210 months ago

                  Ooo, that all sounds kinda sexy. I may have fun.

  • @cosmicrookie
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    1410 months ago

    Listen… I am a really good people person. Folks love to hang out with me. I am not quite sure why but I think that I am a good listener and others love this. My problem is, that I don’t enjoy that. I’m really good at something that I don’t enjoy.

  • Dr. Wesker
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    1210 months ago

    I just quietly do my own thing, and people seem to want to talk to me. I don’t think I’m cool, but maybe laid back and approachable.

    • @squid_slime
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      510 months ago

      I get this vibe from you for sure.

  • @[email protected]
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    1110 months ago

    What I have found works well is to own it, but in a resonable manner.

    Learn some fun facts, truly fun I mean, stuff that normal people can see the funny part of.

    I am a bit of a nerd about public transportation, and I work in a department with many people who like sports, they go to matches, the watch games on the TV, they play sports themselves, so when I found out that there is an annual tram championship it was fun to share that with the rest of the team, it was even better when I found out that they take place during the summer and are broadcast live on youtube.

    Summer is our slow season, and we have several TVs set up for monitoring system in the office, one of them has been shut off for a lobg time but you can still use it, so I put it up on the TV on mute, and people found it interesting to watch, the sports people could relate to the competition part of it and I enjoyed seeing the skill and trams used in the competition.

    For those nerds who are interested here is the video from the 2023 championship:

    https://www.youtube.com/live/GMI7UaJMwWs

    Perhaps not as suave as you are thinking but an example of owning it in a responsible manner.

    • abouttocomealive
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      510 months ago

      This is amazing! I randomly selected somewhere in the middle, and the driver had to jump out of the tram to extinguish a fire and quickly jump back in to carry on.

  • @TheInsane42
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    710 months ago

    Look around in the world and notife what is ‘cool and normal’ and ask yourself, would you like to be like that? I don’t, so I don’t care how to be ‘cool’.

    Just go about youre life and live it the way you want, there is only one person who’s opinion should matter, you. (Maybe a 2nd, as living alone can get a tad boring)

  • @[email protected]
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    610 months ago

    I live north of 99,9% of the world population so whenever I walk outside, I get cool real quick during this time of the year. Does it count?

    • @IMongoose
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      310 months ago

      If I ever saw you outside in person I’d think damn, that guy looks pretty cool.

  • @[email protected]
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    510 months ago

    I’ve developed courage that I never thought I’d be capable of. I can be very scared and keep myself moving.

    Also I’ve got a bunch of great spotify playlists, from my time as an Uber driver (a job that lets you listen to and hence curate music for twelve hours a day). Today when the overhead music failed in the store I worked at, it was a bit awkward meeting with my clients. So I pulled out my phone and put on my “Jazz Low” playlist, which is for low-energy loungy jazz.

  • Dr. Jordan B. Peterson
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    410 months ago

    In the vast, uncharted wilderness of modern thought, where chaos reigns supreme and the dragons of political correctness lurk behind every corner, there emerges a lone figure—a beacon of reason, a knight in tarnished armor, armed with nothing but a set of archetypal myths and a diet exclusively comprising beef. This figure, dear listeners, is none other than I, the only man who has dared to read Carl Jung and Friedrich Nietzsche before breakfast, the solitary defender of the lost art of cleaning one’s room as a panacea for the world’s ills.

    As I stride through the academic wastelands, where the shadows of postmodernism grow long and the specter of Marxism haunts every lecture hall, I carry with me the sacred torch of individual responsibility. It is I who have bravely pointed out that lobsters, those illustrious crustaceans, hold the key to understanding human social hierarchies, a revelation so profound it has shaken the very foundations of biology.

    With every word I utter, legions of lost souls flock to my banner, seeking refuge from the chaos of their untidy bedrooms and the existential dread of having to use preferred gender pronouns. “Fear not,” I proclaim from atop my YouTube pedestal, “for I have deciphered the ancient texts and uncovered the secrets to life’s meaning: stand up straight with your shoulders back, and all the complexities of modern existence shall bow before you.”

    In this world where dragons masquerade as social justice warriors and the cultural Marxist hydra rears its many heads, I alone have had the courage to say, “Enough!” With my trusty Patreon shield and the sword of biological determinism, I venture forth into the unknown, a lone voice crying out in the wilderness, daring to ask the questions that others dare not whisper: “But what about the men?”

    So, as I gaze upon the chaos of the modern world from the lofty heights of my intellectual fortress, I am not swayed by the siren songs of equality or the chimerical allure of social progress. For I know that the path to true enlightenment lies not through compassion or understanding, but through a rigorous adherence to a diet that has left me in a perpetual state of ketosis.

    In conclusion, let us not be led astray by the mercurial charms of empathy or the allure of collective action. Instead, let us follow the path I have laid out, a path that meanders through ancient myths, obscure dietary restrictions, and an unwavering commitment to misinterpreting postmodernism. For in the end, it is not the world that must change, but the angle at which we tilt our heads when we stare longingly into the eyes of our semen-encrusted waifu pillows.

  • @ConstipatedWatson
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    410 months ago

    I’m not a nerd, why would you say that?

    (nervously scratching my face while looking for any cool and elegant piece for clothing in the closet)

  • @RBWells
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    410 months ago

    What? I’m not cool. But did hear someone at work tell someone else that I am “so funny”. Something I guess, at least.

  • 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 ℹ️
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    310 months ago

    What made me cool in high school, according to those who called me cool, was because I don’t give a fuck what other people think and just do what I like to do, dress how I like to dress, etc.

    Though it was probably also that time a bully wanted to fight me and got practically the whole school to watch as he wailed on me and I just laughed because he had absolutely no power and felt like I was being assaulted by pillows.

    • @TehBamski
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      210 months ago

      Damn dude. He might have tried to conflict physical damage to you, but you certainly conflicted psychological damage on him with your response during the fight. Seems like something The Dark Knight Joker would do.

  • @Chee_Koala
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    310 months ago

    Confident but not cocky, try and make someone’s day better with laughter or a compliment. Ask questions that confirm you are really interested. Listen intently. Have a basic set of clothes that combine well into something about 25% the way of 'well dressed", whatever that may be in your style.

  • Call me Lenny/Leni
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    310 months ago

    I’m still trying to figure that out. I definitely don’t feel like I ring any cool bells to anyone.

  • guyrocket
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    210 months ago

    I might like more “cool” stuff than nerdy but I still think I’m a nerd.

    Not all nerds are nerdy.