• ivanafterall
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    311 month ago

    This is so very much me. I’m not missing your signals, I just ACTUALLY “hate playing games” like you claim to do and I’m already checked out.

    • @Bittersea
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      I really appreciate when people announce what they hate, so I can expect exactly that from them. Really helps out with those social cues. “Yes, Brenda, we know you hate drama; sucks that it follows you around like a fart cloud. I’m sure it was the dog.”

  • littleblue✨
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    281 month ago

    Yes, ignoring something is sure to convey the much-needed lesson. A classic maneuver. Timeless. So effective. 🤌🏽

    • @feedmecontent
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      371 month ago

      People use this tactic against autistic people all the time so it’s easy to see how it gets internalized. So many situations where it’s like “Oh, they know what this means and Im not going to humor them by explaining it, so I’m just going to pretend they know what everything means.” It’s very tempting to flip. As a teenager I definitely said “use your words like an adult” to adults, especially the types that would pull that reverse bullshit themselves.

    • @Donkter
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      191 month ago

      Literally half of “social cues” are pretending not to acknowledge something and hoping that leaving it unsaid draws attention to it.

      • @[email protected]
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        111 month ago

        The other half is ignoring something in order to not draw attention to it. An old book on manners said something like, one says “excuse me” for a burp, but if the gas emerges in the other direction, no one is to acknowledge it happened.

      • littleblue✨
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        -71 month ago

        Do you have a link to this irrefutable research?

        • @Donkter
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          91 month ago

          I think, ironically, this is you missing a social cue. Namely implied hyperbole.

          • littleblue✨
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            -51 month ago

            Funny how quick one is to assume the neurotypical as so common it’s the default. Well illustrated, stranger. I hope we all learned something. 🤗

              • @Donkter
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                21 month ago

                I think they were saying I assumed they were neurotypical when I first responded. Which, fair, most people are.

  • IRL cockroach
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    Me when people start pointing to show me where something is. Stop pointing, actually tell me where it is

    • @edgemaster72
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      91 month ago

      “Look in my eyes, I am the social norms now. Now stop looking me in the eyes.”

  • nifty
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    31 month ago

    When I get belligerent, social cues be damned! Though I have issues telling the right thing to do. I’ve gotten better at this overtime, but it’s not hard for people to sus me out as a non-normie.

  • Amro
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    -51 month ago

    @Mandarbmax That is not a social cue. You just shat in your hand and are waving with it now. Stop it.