• 👍Maximum Derek👍
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    2 months ago

    I recently learned (in my mid-40s) that I’ve been figuring this out the hard way most of my life.

    I always diagram the sentence in my head, as in: The subject is fear, the object is Rush, so it’s ‘whom.’
    My wife has a simple grammar rule that if him/her works then it’s whom, if she/he fits better then it’s who.

    I feel like my primary school teachers did me dirty.

    • @[email protected]
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      92 months ago

      That’s it. That’s exactly how it works. People act like using whom instead of who is fancy, but it’s really no more complicated than knowing the difference between he and him or she and her.

    • The Snark Urge
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      62 months ago

      I just assume that if what you’re referring to is “them”, it’s “whom”.

      I cannot learn otherwise, I am too stupid.

  • @alexc
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    32 months ago

    I think it’s more technically correct as “of whom are you afraid” as you should not end a sentence with a preposition.

    Then again, I’m a software engineer so perhaps not.

  • @[email protected]
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    22 months ago

    English is my 2nd language and I learned a lot from this comment section. Thanks you guys.