I consider abortion the same as murder with only two exceptions: her life was in danger or she got raped.
So if she had an abortion and it wasn’t because of her life being in danger or because of rape, then no, I wouldn’t want to be with such a woman.
Pretty reasonable in my opinion, there are people who it’s against even when it’s rape but definitely I’m agree with it only when sex was non-consensual because at this point of society decostruction(destruction?) I can’t imagine how much rape allegations are false.
If my wife didn’t have an abortion, she would be fucking dead by now, so how would that even be a consideration that a sane person would make? Does an abortion make a woman less of a person? No. But does it make her less loveable? Also no. But is it a red flag that she had sex before, maybe even with a different person? No, and fuck patriarchy.
I think my question it’s poorly framed, I was talking more about women who use abortion like a contraceptive, some of them with more than 1 abortion.
No.
I guess the only way it factors in is if I knew she has more experience / is in a different stage of life with relationships.
But that’s got to do with age and maturity more than anything.
Honestly I’d be more relieved that there isn’t an ex in the picture she’s tied to via the kid!
No.
I mean, I would take it as a sign she is responsible about not bringing unwanted children into the world. Green flag if anything.
Seconded, and 100% agree. Same thing with previous marriages. This alone shouldn’t be a show stopper.
Would you even consider it better to have a relationship with someone who has had an abortion than with someone who hasn’t, or is it totally irrelevant?
It’s irrelevant. Why are you asking? This is a very strange line of questioning.
EDIT: Oh god your post history is horrifying. You need to just get out and speak to real people and just develop some social skills and a general understanding of society.
Nothing specific, just wondering what’s the opinion on this of Lemmy’s people.
What a weird question to pose.
Women are real people, not RPG characters to optimize for maximum compatibility.
Why does it matter if someone has received healthcare previously?
Since every single other comment says no, and I love debate, so I will say yes, because its her buisiness that should have been kept private. The fact that I know about it is a red flag.
No. For the same reason that I wouldn’t avoid a relationship with a woman for having an appendectomy.
Jesus Christ, dude. Seriously? Are you 12?
Enough already, please.
Nope, it would have no bearing on my decision-making process. Not my body, not my womb, not my fucking business.
No. God no
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No.
Nope.
No.
