On the road to realizing he’s gay
Breaking up wasn’t a bad idea. If he wasn’t invested in the relationship, he did her a favor.
Not fake, definitely gay.
If they’re happier with their gym routine than they are with their girlfriend, she’s the wrong girlfriend. Anon did it right.
Yeah it’s telling the only things he said about her was that she’s asian, makes him food and has sex with him.
Annon has very 4chan-esque ideas about what a relationship is about and what he should get from it.
could also be aromantic and just doesn’t know it
The boy needs therapy
Anon is depressed and self-sabotaged because he doesn’t think he’s worthy of love. Therapists should really advertise in 4chan.
That or he didn’t love her, he didn’t say anything about love or emotional attachment or anything, just that she was Asian and fucked him.
Anon wasn’t after a relationship, he was after a sex toy, and fundamentally misunderstanding what a relationship is and being in one that was entirely loveless was draining on him. He just didn’t realise why.
but this time I don’t care
I mean, maybe he’s just happy on his own for now? It’s ok to have moments of doubt here and there (re: “staring at my PC” , “did it do it right”) but just because they broke up with their gf and went back to their self improvement routine doesn’t automatically mean self sabotage and all that.
I’d agree if his “self-improvement routine” wasn’t just hitting the gym.
Fuck, I was kinda doing alright, making friends, getting out, part of a big kink/group sex community, then I met my current GF, I haven’t been to a sex party in months, I feel miserable 50% of the time, honestly most difficult person I’ve ever been with because of the way she sees life and relationships, wondering if I should break up with her.
Only thing is I think I’m fooling myself Re how miserable I was
My only piece of relationship advice is to avoid online relationship advice. Particularly from a greentext community.
Lol, see, there is good advice on a greentext community.
We can call it the greentext paradox.
Good advice does not come from greentext communities, but that statement is good advice.
I’ll be real you just might not be cut out for monogamy and thats okay. Talk to them about how you are feeling.
I think it’s the opposite, she’s a relationship anarchist and I can’t cope with this kind of relationship and how seemingly little importance I have in her life sometimes. I could do poly with a primary partner, but not RA.
relationship anarchist
Man, people these days will do absolutely anything that can to shrug off any commitment or intimacy with their partner. I wouldn’t even try to date a RA, that sounds miserable, dude.
I mean you can be heavily invested in a relationship as a relationship anarchist.
The anarchy part is that you do not take for granted how a relationship should be structured and that you are open to have very unique and consensually agreed upon aspects in your relationship.
If you want commitment and reliability and loyalty you can for sure ask for it and name it as something that is essential for your relationship and if they do not give it to you it might just be best to split ways.
Of course I understand that there will be people who weaponise relationship anarchy to just do whatever the fuck they want to and rationalise/justify their behaviour but I think the concept isn’t condemnable per sé. There are also people who weaponise therapy speak to gaslight and I wouldn’t want to generally talk bad about therapy.
Just wanted to give a counterpoint because I think engaging with relationship anarchy and for example looking at a smorgasbord can even help monogamous people to figure out what is important to them and what they want.
Yeah, it’s pretty weird and fucked up IMO.
Sounds like they figured themselves out
