It is endlessly frustrating that companies have universally decided that they won’t let people say “no” to stuff, ever. There are no longer options to reject stupid-ass new “features”, only postponement until next time you open the app/website/program. They’ll continue pestering you for the rest of your life. I realize that my frustration may be a little over-zealous, but we deal with these interfaces dozens of times per day and this is user hostile behavior. There isn’t really an option to just use another service or program, since the entire technology landscape has been commandeered by a few major corporations, and they all enact the same shitty things as a group.

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    You should be pissed off! It’s software paternalism, utilizing new speak, removing your vocabulary and agency.

    Every time you’re given a dark pattern dialogue where it says " would you like this thing that you don’t like? Yes absolutely, later " the developers don’t respect you, they’re trying to say you don’t know what you want, they’re using propaganda on you…

    It’s like the classic police interrogation question " is that when you stopped beating your wife?" Yes and no are both traps. So some edgy developer is trying to trap you with oh but you consented (can send it) to seeing this later. When it’s really user hostile dark patterns using forced language to remove your agency as a human being. It’s fucking scummy

    This is why I love open source software, not only is it highly unlikely for you to see a dark pattern, if you do you can fix it!

  • @breakingcups
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    Yes, the most egregious one that really grinds my gears is on the front page of YouTube, where it will show a shelf with YouTube shorts with an X top right. If you click it, it will hide the shelf and say “Okay, we’ll hide shorts for 30 days” which is something no body would ever mean by pressing that button and it’s such patronizing, insidious bullshit.

    • @imperator3733
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      I freaking hate Shorts, and the persistence with which YouTube attempts to shove that crap down your throat is absolutely infuriating.

      YouTube also recently made the thumbnails larger, which is also really bad as it makes it more difficult to see what videos are in your subscription feed (even moreso with all the shorts clogging it up).

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        Apparently it’s where the real money is. People doom-scrolling through an endless stream of crap.

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        I’ve been watching shorts lately and now EVERYTHING is about shorts. I don’t ever get the little x anymore to remove the annoying fucking shelf anymore. Why does all this shit have to suck so much.

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        TikTok makes tons of dollaroos with shorts, now Google wants a slice of the pie. “Me too, me too”. It would be funny if it wasn’t so annoying.

    • Flippiej
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      YouTube Revanced is the way (Android). Just disable shorts or anything else you don’t like and live happily ever after.

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        Is it a little more finished now?

        When the original vanced got stopped, I could never get the patcher for revanced to work on my phone, and it wasn’t even clear what the issue was. just a lot of errors and glitchy youtube.

        I’ve just beeing using firefox with ublock, but its not very convenient.

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          Yes, I’ve had a better time with it since then. I also couldn’t get it to work initially but now I’ve used it on two phones and it works fine. The trick is to use a slightly older release of the YT apk.

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          From my experience, yes. The initial setup was kind of annoying, but it’s been almost entirely smooth sailing from there.

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      At least it shows the shorts of the creators that you are subbed to.
      I usually only watch the one on the front page if I can recognize them in the thumbnail or it actually seems interesting and never ever scroll them.

      My only gripe:

      • Youtubers use shorts for the short sketches instead of actual short videos
      • Only 60s long
      • Vertical instead of horizontal
      • Both rot my brain. :(
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          Yup.
          But if, I usually only watch the once I recognize. Those random brain rotting shorts are very noticeable from the ones I usually consume.

    • @[email protected]
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      You know, I don’t think I’ve ever even been the the front page of YouTube.

      It’s like Stack Overflow in that regard. Google just takes you to pages in it, and then you leave again.

    • SokathHisEyesOpenOP
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      Use NextDNS and you can block everything except for ads that are served as content, like Facebook does.

      • @[email protected]
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        Use portmaster and rethinkdns to use those filter lists no matter which DNS you choose (I use dnscrypt BTW)

        • @[email protected]
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          Probably because of this. The commenter overstated the situation, but there are valid and serious criticisms to be made.

          • @[email protected]
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            The commenter overstated the situation

            Yeah, by a whole fucking lot.

            So did the people making the initial accusations, which twisted RMS’s words past the breaking point of credibility.

            For the record — since almost nobody seems to have bothered to read what he actually said, instead preferring to blindly believe the character assassins’ secondhand interpretation — the only thing RMS did “wrong” was failing to conform to the societal assumption that the teenager involved had zero agency just because she was young and should instead be treated exactly the same as if she were a small child. He didn’t even claim she did have agency; he just refused to discount the possibility out of hand.

            In other words, he got cancelled for being too respectful and feminist toward her (along with using careful logic and not jumping to conclusions unsupported by facts just because the topic was taboo).

            I mean, this is a guy who was inventing neopronouns before it was cool. He’s literally the most egalitarian-minded person I can think of, and is about as far from a male chauvinist as you can get!


            Frankly, the whole situation reeks of wanting to weaken the Free Software Foundation and bend it towards corporate interests by discrediting the most prominent copyleft and users’ rights hard-liner. But I can’t prove that, so I’ll stop short of actually claiming it.

            (I also won’t claim that the speed at which people were willing to believe the accusations at face value was due to their latent ableism and lack of understanding towards autistic people. Although RMS certainly acts autistic IMO, to my knowledge he’s never claimed to have been diagnosed with that condition.)

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        No he didn’t. He said some things that were blatantly misreported, and then he was crucified without anyone bothering to notice that he didn’t actually say what was accused of saying.

  • ZephyrXero
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    I think another issue here is a side effect of the move to Software As A Service. With installed software you could run an old version nearly forever, but with SASS you’re always on the latest version

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        Agreed. I hate anything auto updating on it’s own because changes can break or remove features at any time.

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      Nagware was huge 20 years ago, hell Evernote still does it. They move the nag around each time as well.

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    I hear your frustration, but there are other options. They won’t necessarily be the same, or perhaps equivalent in every way, but they do exist. You don’t have to use the same corporations over and over again.

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      Actually, we do often have to use the same corporations over and over again. The choice to abstain or switch can often require more time, training, or money.

      Even with suites like Adobe, the support for their programs from third parties is HUGE. That’s finally changing slowly, but it’s still typically easiest to stick with things like after effects and premier because it’s got massive community resource support. Templates can be a huge shortcut, and without the right options mane projects are made a lot more difficult and/or decreased in quality.

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        I’ve don’t think I’ve ever used an Adobe product. While they may be huge in specific fields, there are other options. Yes, extra time, training, and money will need to be used to move to alternatives, but what’s the other option? Continue giving Adobe money and support their monopoly? Be the change you want to see.

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      Do you know of a music streaming service that isn’t Amazon, Apple, YouTube, or Spotify? Because I’ll check it out if you do. In my car I have a thumb drive with my entire lifelong music collection on it, but at work I can’t plug anything into my work computer and need something that is accessible through the internet. I can’t imagine not having music to listen to while coding, I’d eventually lose my mind.

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        Have you checked out Plex? Host your own steaming server … for years I used a 10yr old Mac Mini.

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          A streaming server that I can access from my work computer? Like on the web or something? I can’t install Plex on my work computer. I set Plex up about 6 years ago, but then I realized I could just stream my movies and songs onto my home theater system straight from a HDD, so I didn’t get very deep in the Plex configs before I stopped using it.

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            With Plex you can go to https://app.plex.tv from your work computer and steam from your browser. That said, if you can install software, Plexamp is a great way to listen to and rediscover your music.

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        I hear decent things about Deezer, never tried it myself though.

        • @[email protected]
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          Since I just ranted about the family plan of YouTube: Deezer doesn’t enforce (or even demand) family members to be in the same household. So I have Deezer Family and share it with family members living in three different cities.

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      So what “other option” do I have to stop my kid’s ClassDojo app from badgering me to “upgrade” to “plus?”

      Keep in mind that it’s the public school system that chose to use ClassDojo, not me.

      And that’s only one out of about half a dozen shitty third-party services with shitty ToSs that the school system has tried to push on me in the last week!

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        There’s always options.

        • Refuse to use the applications and consult with the school board with your concerns. Involve other parents and start a movement.
        • Use a different local school system. Is there a local private school that’s better?
        • Home schooling is another option.

        I’m not saying any of those are easy options. In fact, you may have no good options today. But you don’t need to stay that way forever. Explore what options you could have next year, or the year after. What can you work toward?

        At the end of the day, the more everybody gives in and allows the abuse to happen, the move it will be normalized and accepted. If you don’t like what is happening, then make changes in what you accept in your life.

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    Every time I go to the ATM to get cash it shows me an ad for a service and the options are “Yes” and “No thanks.”

    I am forced to choose one. I am forced to thank them for showing me an ad before they give me my own money.

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      Jesus where are you from? I never heard of ads in an atm, that scares the sht out of me, something I am trusting my personal data with could end up selling it or using it for ads.

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      I hate this specifically for one of the corner stores at my house. When I use tap-to-pay (or I assume swiping a card), it gives me a “Would you like to register for our rewards program? Selecting no will not impact your ability to complete this purchase” prompt…

      Except then I’m forced to actually physically click “No”, which circumvents the whole point of not having to touch the POS terminal when using tap-to-pay…

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        Tap to pay isn’t there to stop you from interacting with the terminal though? I mean yeah it was handy during the pandemic to now have to touch things many other people touch but that wasn’t the main idea behind tap to pay.

        • @[email protected]
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          Yep, my apologies I should’ve been a bit more clear - a lot of stores during the pandemic put up signs saying that they preferred for you to use tap-to-pay as a preventative / safety measure, and this store is one of them.

          Of course, even during the peak point of the pandemic that prompt was still there, and is still there… and due to the medication that I’m on I am somewhat immunocompromised so I would prefer to not have to touch the screen since everyone who pays using anything that isn’t cash has to also touch the display.

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            Ah then yeah that kinda silly. They should at least have a cashier override for that prompt if they are going to brag about not having to touch it.

        • @Aceticon
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          Tap to pay is there for banks to eliminate the last money transaction they weren’t taking a cut of: cash payments.

          They haven’t been trying to get this shit going for almost 2 decades because the convenience othe their customers is their driving motivation…

          • @[email protected]
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            I mean I hardly use the tap to pay feature on my cards but I use credit cards for everything. Tap to pay is more secure so protects the banks more. Same reason we moved to chips instead of always using mag strips.

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              I’ve actually worked in smartcard issuance at some point and tap to pay isn’t at all more secure than the cards with smartchips requiring physical contact and a pin code that the banks had finally gotten around to adopt after more than a decade of Visa and Mastercard trying to force them to ditch magstrip (which was laughably insecure).

              Tap to pay actuall reduced security because it removed the “locked for anything with a key known only to the user” element and replaced it with a limit on losses (i.e. pinless payments are limited to a certain amount so losses if the card is stolen are limited) and replaced the physical connection requirement with a radio-range one which can be worked around with a directional antenna (something as simple as a pringles can).

              Sure, it’s better than magstrip, but then pretty much anything is better than magstrip.

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    I don’t think that you’re being overzealous. Far from that - even the phrasing rubs me the wrong way; it conveys "you’re something fooling itself that it has a choice. You don’t - you aren’t a rational human being, you’re a user. Do as you’re being ordered to. The continued pestering adds “You’ll be bossed around until you learn to obey.” to the insult.

    On a lighter side I agree with Grouchy that you have options. I think that we should start giving those companies the middle finger. And frankly I think that we’re better off doing so for other reasons - the data vultures love this sort of “non-confrontational on surface, but bossy upon analysis” discourse.

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      the data vultures love this sort of “non-confrontational on surface, but bossy upon analysis” discourse.

      We need a simple name for this, like we have for enshittification or shrinkflation.

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        Perhaps “donkey taming”? Donkeys are often associated with stupidity, but they’re actually rather smart… and stubborn, they don’t do what you want them to do unless you’re really insistent, and slowly lead them the way that you want. What those businesses are doing with users is the same.

  • @TheMusicalFruit
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    I just had LinkedIn do this to me this morning. They sent a message trying to get me to buy some sort of sales package, with only preset response options, all were different versions of yes or ask me later. I reported the message as spam.

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    The tech market slowing after the end of Covid really showed these greedy fucks for who they are. Profits dropped and they all pulled out the enshittification dial for a big old twist.

    Like, can’t you just deal with being slightly less insanely rich for a few minutes?

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      I think it was Vanderbilt who answered the question of “how much money is enough” with “more”. Billionaires have a hole in their soul. No amount of money will fill it, but that doesn’t stop them from trying.

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        I believe it’s a human thing. I’ve heard the term “hedonistic treadmill” where what you once wanted becomes “meaningless” once you have it and now you’re looking to the next thing to obtain.

        The ultra wealthy wanted money, but now they “won” capitalism and need more because it literally is never enough. This goes for you and me too though, if we became billionaires we’d be looking for “what’s next?”

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          I disagree with your assertion that you and I would succumb to endless greed if given a large sum of money. Not everyone is built like that. Look at Tom from MySpace. He was offered hundreds of millions of dollars (not billions) for his website, took it, and fucked off to Africa to take a bunch of pictures. He pursues his hobbies now, and isn’t focused on obtaining more money he’ll never spend. He could have revamped his platform, put Facebook out of business, and pursued endless data and control, but that’s not what he was about, and I don’t think that is what most people are about. The billionaires who never have enough are broken. Something inside them is wrong.

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      They are legally obliged to, lmao. After companies become public, they have to maximize profits, if not, shareholders can simply vote to fire whomever they want. Look at every company on earth. They all with the same road. from facebook, google, to soon-to-be-public reddit.

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          It think it became “mandatory” when we removed pensions from the equation and tied “everyones” retirement savings to The Market™©® so we need companies to be considerate of their stock price as it’s often our retirement that depends on it.

          Nothing like a loaded gun put to our future foreheads to make us go along with some more bullshit…

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        “Fun” fact, Facebook isn’t a good example here because Zuckerberg has his shares structured so he has full control.

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    Start holding a grudge against all companies that don’t deserve your respect. If they clearly violate your trust, that bridge just got instantly burned to ashes, and there are no seconds chances.

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      I actively avoid products that get shoved in my face with ads and sponsorships. NordVPN, SkillShare, Brilliant, Raid Shadow Legends, fucking whatever can all go to hell. I wanna watch my videos in peace and they annoy me.

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        If a company is is pushing their product that hard, there might be something wrong. Perhaps the company behaves like a psychopath, the product sucks, or both.

        Also, consider installing the sponsor block plugin. Not too long ago there was a good post that listed all the essential plugins like that. That post proves to me that I don’t need Reddit any more. I’ve already got what I need right here in Lemmy.

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      Oh, I do. Probably for years longer than necessary.

      But for such a thing as the “Not now” button and there wont barely be software left.

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    This is just one of a hundred reasons to avoid proprietary software. The only power we have to change the behavior of closed software is not using it.

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    2020s big tech web platforms have a certain language to them that makes me think of a passive aggressive Californian dudebro designing them. It’s not “No”, it’s “Maybe later”; it’s not “OK” it’s “Got it” et cetera

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      “Got it” is a really weird one too, “Ok” had a hint that you are in approval of what you’re seeing. “Got it” is more of a message of “we know you probably don’t care or even detest this but you have to tell us you are at least aware of our latest thing”.

      It is underhanded in the language and has a bit of admission that they know you really just want the modal to just go away.

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        “Got it” is an acknowledgement while “OK” is an agreement. This is probably a deliberate choice on their part.

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    In the eighties, it was acknowledged that since the fifties the viewing public are more resistant to commercials and marketing, outpacing their new techniques (more commercials, engaging commercials, obnoxious commercials, product placement, having whole shows that are one big commercial, etc.)

    One factor is as marketers hard-sell middle age men, they’re also immunizing their kids and grand kids who grow up skeptical of anyone saying anything nice lest they’re trying to sell something.

    This also likely figures into the attendance crises experienced by religious ministries as old parishioners age out and new ones realize they don’t have time for spirit or money for tithes.

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      Fascinating, I assumed roughly this behavior but I don’t think there’s much information about the futility of marketing because it threatens the jobs of marketers, any good sources?

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        Both Cracked and Wisecrack have done videos on the phenomenon. I suspect the reason it doesn’t affect the job is because the immunizing effect is general while the promoting effect is specific. Coca-cola wants to boost Coke, even if in so doing, they weaken all future promotions of everything.

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      Whenever I see an ad telling me how my life could be better if I just bought the next widget, I think of a line from the princess bride:

      “Life IS pain. Anybody who tells you otherwise is trying to sell you something.”

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    Yeah, Google is doing this to analytics right now. The decision seems universally disliked amongst professionals.