Is their being successful going to be used by them to make my life worse? If not, I wish them all the success in the world.

I mean, sure - why not? Like Ada said, if it isn’t going to cause any negative impact on me, there isn’t a reason for me to object that I can think of.

I would be a bit concerned about the hazards of drawing a lot of attention to yourself on the internet, because of the vile people on the internet - but aside from a brief note about it (if they asked for my opinion), that’s really all I’d have to say on the matter.

Super unsuccessful on onlyfans is quite funny.

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Doesn’t matter to me. I’m not wishing harm on anyone, whatever our problems are, assuming they leave me alone. Some people might be disgruntled if they were left in a bad position and then their ex does great. Others might think “hmm, we’d stayed together I could have benefited from a wealthy porn influencer lifestyle”. Personally I think if they can move on and be prosperous, great.

I would rather they be successful. That way its much less likely that I’d get caught up in their bullshit again.

If it’s for a novel, this is the wrong question. Whatever you choose should support the larger story, tonally, thematically, and narratively (if writing advice consisting entirely of adverbs can ever be trusted)

Assuming I really hated them and wanted them to suffer, I’d rather that they be super successful.

I’d want them to be successful enough that people not only have sexual fantasies on them, but also, deranged fans that stalk and harass them. The harassment, stalking, and the “pressures of celebrity” would also likely lead them into a downward spiral. Perhaps the only downside to this is that a crazy enough fan would abduct them, and kill them. If I really hated that ex’s guts, I’d rather them suffer until they either spectacularly implode in public, or fade into obscurity only to resurface in the news as one of those “Where they are now?” articles showing their extremely sorry state.

Otherwise, I don’t really care. They’re not my problem anymore. They’d have far better chances of living a normal life if they were super unsuccessful, though, so there’s that.

I don’t have many exes, but I always hope they’ll be successful in all the cool stuff that they do. Definitely same goes here!

Now the real quandary is, what are the ethics of looking at your exe’s OnlyFans? Do you ask them first? Is it weird?

I’d love it if this were a small detail in a larger story. It could be an interesting underlying storyline to show the main character’s growth in starting off relishing in the fact that their ex couldn’t get people interested in their body, and then maybe pitying them, and finally anonymously tipping them, realizing that maybe if they had appreciated their ex’s body a little more then maybe things would be different. But being able to make them smile again and make them feel good about their body makes the main character see that life goes on and that there’s plenty of good in the world if you’re brave enough to kickstart it.

But I’m not a writer. I’m sure your friend has better ideas.

I’d want them to be just successful enough that they keep doing it - plowing time and energy that could otherwise be spent on fulfilling hobbies or real relationships - but not so successful that they could really commit to it. Like if they made ~$100/week, it’s not nothing but is it really worth the dozens of hours on weekends and evenings that you are spending to make that?

If y’all had a kid, successful. If she a hoe, unsuccessful.