Thanks for sharing, and happy holidays

  • @LemmyKnowsBest
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    13711 months ago

    whenever someone’s putting pressure on you to make a difficult important life altering decision, with the stipulation that the decision must be made immediately, RUN AWAY.

    • El Barto
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      4211 months ago

      What if you’re trying to get rid of a ring in the mountain of doom?

    • Centillionaire
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      Thanks, man. I’ll go tell the doctor I’m never doing that emergency surgery. /s

      • @LemmyKnowsBest
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        1611 months ago

        Did your doctor say, “It’s now or never!” (?) Seems a bit unprofessional

        • El Barto
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          “Your spouse is horribly losing blood and we need your consent to remove her hemorrhaging kidney. What do you say? Ok! It’s been two minutes thinking about it, man… IT IS NOW OR NEVER!”

          • @jas0n
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            1211 months ago

            :: runs away ::

              • Capt. Wolf
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                611 months ago

                Qu’est-ce que c’est?

                Fa-fa-fa-fa, fa-fa-fa-fa-fa-fa, better

                Run, run, run, run, run, run, run away!

        • @stockRot
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          211 months ago

          How is that relevant to your original claim?

  • @Chivera
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    12811 months ago

    Why should I go big when I can go home.

  • @Aremel
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    I didn’t have sex with a girl I had a crush on for the longest time.

    It didn’t matter a bit in the long run, but it would have been nice.

        • @stoicmaverick
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          1211 months ago

          I don’t know man. I was going for a ‘comically supportive thing as though he was actually emotionally devastated by it but didn’t want to admit it’ vibe, but I guess somebody read it wrong, and everyone else assumed the worst. You know… the Internet.

  • kreynen
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    I don’t own a timeshare. Feel pretty good about that decision.

    The numbers they were showing us seemed to make sense. If we spent an average of X on vacations for Y years compared to the cost of the timeshare and fees, the timeshare was cheaper AND we could trade our week in a ski area for timeshares anywhere in the world. How could we not buy into this? Might have signed, but when they told us we couldn’t take any of the information with us and had to decide NOW, I knew something wasn’t right. Had to say no for almost an hour, but but we were eventually allowed to leave the “no obligation presentation” required for our “free” weekend.

    When I did more research, I found dozens of people trying to unload their purchases for far less than the company was selling weeks to new members.

    I’ll NEVER own anything using that kind of sales strategy.

  • Uriel238 [all pronouns]
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    My USMC recruiting officer didn’t want me to go home and confer with family, but sign the papers right away before I walked out of the office. That’s when I decided he seemed a bit too desperate.

    Dozens of stories from vets later (many with TBIs who couldn’t get proper treatment) I engage in counter-recruitment now.

  • Wolf Link 🐺
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    When I had to move out (long, unpleasant story) I had the opportunity to get a nice, cozy appartement with low rent almost immediatly, but during the interview it turned out that they didn’t allow pets and wouldn’t budge, so it wasn’t an option for me and I politely declined.

    They still tried to pressure me into signing the rental contract - calling me multiple times a day to ask whether I wanted to rethink my former decision again, eventually giving me a 24 hour deadline and demanding that I sign ASAP or they would pick someone else. That was the point I told them to go F- themselves as I was NOT going to leave my 13 year old tomcat behind or surrender him to a shelter. They didn’t take it well. (…and suddenly they claimed that noone else wanted the appartement and that they desperately needed someone to move in very soon yadda yadda … so much for “we’re going to pick someone else if you don’t sign today”.)

    Best decision I’ve made that year. The landlord I have now is a super chill dude and I still have my spoiled furry little bastard with me. I’d rather have lived on the street than leaving a four-legged family member behind.

    No idea what became of the other appartement but I pity the people who will have to put up with that passive-aggressive nonsense for lack of alternatives.

    • @teamevil
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      I ended up with my best friend (rip Pressers) Presley the Plott Hound because a couple divorced and the new apt didn’t let the one that took Presser have him. He never was subject to that kind of silly bs again and spent many happy years riding in my Jeep.

  • FartsWithAnAccent
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    This guy wanted me to help him count cards and we were gonna get rich at casinos.

    I decided to stay home and play video games instead.

    In hindsight, I’d say pretty good lol

    Haven’t heard from that guy in years but I’m going to assume he got murdered by a shady casino owner.

      • @Jackhammer_Joe
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        1211 months ago

        Definitely the Bahamas. With lots of hot babes, sex, drugs and rock 'n roll

  • @BleatingZombie
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    3811 months ago

    “Now or never” is almost never a good deal. Avoid it like the plague

    • @TheDoctorDonna
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      When COVID hit I had a now or never moment and took the now. I took it a couple times actually. Got me a real career in a new province out of the deal so I figure I ended up for the better. Sometimes the choice is obvious like it was for me and you need to jump on that shit before you never get another chance.

      • @RainfallSonata
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        1011 months ago

        Same, though I didn’t realize it was now or never at the time. April 2020 I started the process of buying a house. Asked friends and family if I should wait to see what happened with Covid. They all said wait. I didn’t. Another couple of months later and I would still be renting. I’m so glad I jumped.

        • @[email protected]
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          411 months ago

          Getting g a mortgage just before the rates started skyrocketing seems to have been a good choice.

          Hopefully you are locked in for long enough that the rates can return to some sort of sane level before you need to renew.

  • @[email protected]
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    I was backed into a corner, being forcefully propositioned for a threesome I had already said No to. It became a Never being around those people again.

    I still get a little cranky when I think about being put in that scenario against my express wishes, but have zero regrets. An experience of a lifetime perhaps, but not my jam.

  • Lenny
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    I’d met a guy in a hostel in America. I was about to finish second year of uni and we heard about this work abroad program, so we did it for the summer and I met him when I checked into a dorm room at the end of the trip. We had a little fun, and then I flew home.

    Six months later and we had the odd conversation on Skype, it seemed like there was still some chemistry there. During half term break, we talked again and he suggested meeting up again to figure out if this was more than a fling. So we looked at dates and I realized my final year’s exhibitions and exams blocked pretty much everything for the foreseeable future. We hung up the call and I carried on browsing flights and then I saw it. $250 for a return flight to California, leaving in 48 hours.

    He’d already gone to bed, so I couldn’t call him back to discuss plans. So fuck it, I put in my card details and my finger hovered over the buy button. It’s now or never, so I clicked the button. BOOKED. I sent him a message and started packing for my trip. Yikes.

    I’d got a message back that he’d pick me up from the airport, and as the plane touched down in San Diego I was freaking out that the spark might not be there or he might decide he doesn’t like me anymore, it’s been six months and our initial fling was a drunken party at a hostel.

    But he was there waiting at the bottom of the elevator, and my heart absolutely flipped its shit when I saw him. We spent the next seven days inseparable, it was one long date, and it was incredible.

    Fast forward six years and we’re saying our vows in the park where we took our first romantic walk. We posed for wedding photos in the hostel room where we met. Fast forward another seven years and I’m laying in bed typing this, while he does a conference call in the office next door. Our spark is still there, and I love him so much.

    • Lenny
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      911 months ago

      Oh just reread this thread and saw they’re never stories. Lol oops.

      • @theherk
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        911 months ago

        It’s okay. I enjoyed your story and that’s what we’re here for, eh?

        • Lenny
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          311 months ago

          Aww thanks.

      • @[email protected]
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        311 months ago

        I’m disappointed your story didn’t have a “never” but it’s very sweet. Congratulations, and I’m glad you don’t bail.

  • @BallShapedMan
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    2411 months ago

    When I was in my 20s a guy wanted me to maintain his website that sold do l delivery service of food to college kids and it would have been my first paying gig doing it but he wanted to pay me in “equity” which at the time translated into he wanted free labor and I ghosted him.

    About 10 years ago he sold his company to Grub Hub for a few hundred million. Fucked that one up.

    • @model_tar_gz
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      He would’ve screwed you anyway. “Equity” is so laughably easy to dilute to nada in startups through various means that there are numerous articles and parodies of it out there.

      I worked for a startup that didn’t meet its VC’s “valuation” goal even though we were stupidly profitable nearly from day one. Market-forces driven downround. When I left, the options I had were previously promised to be worth hundreds of thousands but because of dilution, weren’t worth the paper they were printed on. I didn’t let them give me options “in lieu of base comp” though, so I ended up ok but not everyone did.

      • @BallShapedMan
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        211 months ago

        I’m sorry it worked out that way for you. Sucks seeing hard working people get screwed over…

        And that’s a good point and not one I considered. With how financially savvy I wasn’t I wouldn’t have even seen it coming.

  • HubertManne
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    1511 months ago

    If its pressured then never or no is my usual response. If its more situational then I might do now.