• @Jerkface
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    498 months ago

    Very plausible. Sometimes this happens to people who grow up with family who have cluster b personality disorders. It’s like they’re conditioned to be good partners to people who have it. Ask me how I know.

    • BigFig
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      88 months ago

      …how do you know?

      • @Jerkface
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        228 months ago

        Mother had BPD, possibly ASPD, brother had NPD. I have a tendency to attract people who suffered intense childhood trauma.

        • @[email protected]
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          108 months ago

          I’m picturing you going on a first date and just casually asking something like “So, childhood abuse yes or no?”

          • @Jerkface
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            58 months ago

            Like another comment said, sometimes you can just sense it, but often enough they will just tell me. I have heard so many stories, frequently about sexual assault by a family member, from someone I had just met or barely knew.

            • @AngryCommieKender
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              38 months ago

              I have a similar thing. People just open up to me, but my parents aren’t abusive. The worst punishment they gave us was to write a research paper on why what we had done was wrong.

        • @A_Very_Big_Fan
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          28 months ago

          Sameee. It sounds bad but honestly I think it’s done a lot in the way of building mental fortitude