• @stoicmaverick
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    43 hours ago

    Porn is the only reason I am still married. After our second kid, my wife’s already low sex drive dropped to asexual. She is a wonderful mother, but she is either willfully or ignorantly oblivious to any romantic advance. I get, on average, about one fully clothed, under-the-covers hand job every 6 months or so that’s so unenthusiastic that I am reminded why I stopped trying to get her to do it. I am sexually starving. The only thing I want in the world right now is to feel the warm touch of someone who actually wants to touch me again, but I’d rather die, lonely, but married to her than let my kids grow up in a broken home…

    So ya, I jerk off to porn after she goes to bed.

    • @[email protected]
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      23 hours ago

      It’s better to show your kids what is like to be happy and have your needs met than to show them being miserable and setling. Especially on their behalf.

      Which would you rather for your kids?

      Which are you showing your kids by example?

      • @stoicmaverick
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        11 hour ago

        Do you have kids? I used to hate when people would ask me that question before I had kids, because it seems to imply that having them places your opinion on a higher tier. Now that I do, I try and avoid it as much as possible for that reason, but I do understand that parenting is one of the theaters where theory space, and optimal practice, can be very different. The fact is, they never have to know, at least until they’re old enough to understand. They don’t have to know that Dad is sad when he’s alone with Mom, because we still have fun and laugh as a family when they are present. The lesson that I’m teaching them by example, is that it is better to have one bedroom than two, then to have to decide whether they want to live with mom or dad most of the time, that even though Mom and Dad civilly argue sometimes, we can still be a family, and be happy most of the time, rather than give up on a promise made before they were born because of factors they can’t possibly understand yet.

      • @Emerald
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        22 hours ago

        Ah, yes. Let me tell the children that I’m getting a divorce cause wifey won’t fuck me

        • @Clinicallydepressedpoochie
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          32 hours ago

          How about, “Daddys leaving because he no longer in a loving relationship with mommy.” Divorce isn’t the end of the world.