• @[email protected]
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    35 hours ago

    It’s better to show your kids what is like to be happy and have your needs met than to show them being miserable and setling. Especially on their behalf.

    Which would you rather for your kids?

    Which are you showing your kids by example?

    • @stoicmaverick
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      13 hours ago

      Do you have kids? I used to hate when people would ask me that question before I had kids, because it seems to imply that having them places your opinion on a higher tier. Now that I do, I try and avoid it as much as possible for that reason, but I do understand that parenting is one of the theaters where theory space, and optimal practice, can be very different. The fact is, they never have to know, at least until they’re old enough to understand. They don’t have to know that Dad is sad when he’s alone with Mom, because we still have fun and laugh as a family when they are present. The lesson that I’m teaching them by example, is that it is better to have one bedroom than two, then to have to decide whether they want to live with mom or dad most of the time, that even though Mom and Dad civilly argue sometimes, we can still be a family, and be happy most of the time, rather than give up on a promise made before they were born because of factors they can’t possibly understand yet.

    • @Emerald
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      24 hours ago

      Ah, yes. Let me tell the children that I’m getting a divorce cause wifey won’t fuck me

      • @Clinicallydepressedpoochie
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        34 hours ago

        How about, “Daddys leaving because he no longer in a loving relationship with mommy.” Divorce isn’t the end of the world.

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          12 hours ago

          For real though, why is everyone heading straight to divorce, instead of talking about how to tap that wife

          • @Clinicallydepressedpoochie
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            Cause it’s condescending to explain to a person you don’t know who has been in a serious relationship with a person you dont know for who knows how long that you can tap it if you’re just an extra good boy.

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              124 minutes ago

              Pretty condescending to tell somebody you don’t know that they need to get divorced too. Tbh libidos can go to shit after kids so yeah. Maybe my funny joke wasn’t so funny. Ah well, I always have had a crap sense of humour