• @Lost_My_Mind
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    811 days ago

    No…a home loan. A loan to buy a home. I don’t have a home yet.

    • @papalonian
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      1010 days ago

      A stranger on the internet took the time to write out some really helpful constructive advice to something you’re struggling with, and you’re blowing them off with a pedantic clarification? If you really don’t think there’s anything to take away from that comment because they didn’t get your exact example perfectly right, that could be another reason people are trying to escape conversations with you. It doesn’t sound like you want to have them.

    • themeatbridge
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      611 days ago

      Even worse. You’re buying a house? That’s incredibly stressful and fraught with perils that the average person will experience less than once in their lives. You don’t start with the loan, you start with the open house that had the sex swing.

      • @Lost_My_Mind
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        411 days ago

        I don’t have a specific house in mind. I’m trying to get the loan process started so I can go home shopping.

        • @[email protected]
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          10 days ago

          I don’t have a specific house in mind (but I’m thinking about X, or Y, or Z. I really like ______, because _________).

          Listen I hate to pile on here, but your responses are lacking proactive elements that create interesting dialogue. And that can come across as very dull indeed.

          Don’t sweat it though. Just consider adding more details without being asked. Adding 2-3 extra, unprompted tidbits in the first couple sentences when speaking to someone might be all you need to escape your conversational doldrums.