cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/20091173

I’ve been waiting until after Christmas day to make this post, but some of our communities recently have had a lot of noise and upset over someone that uses neopronouns that most people are unfamiliar with.

So I want to make this clear. A persons pronouns are to be respected. This is true when the user is using neopronouns that you’re unfamiliar with. It’s true even if you think someone is trolling. Pronouns are not rewards for good behaviour. They aren’t only to be respected when you like the person you’re interacting with, or if their pronouns “make sense” to you. Trolls, spammers, twitter users, it doesn’t matter who they are, your options are to respect their pronouns, or to not engage with them.

I really want to re-iterate the importance of this. Gender diverse folk are undermined, invalidated and questioned at every step of our lives. As a community, we need to be working to undo that, not creating more of it, and that means there is no space for treating pronouns (including neopronouns) as a reward for good behaviour.

This isn’t a free reign for trolls and spammers. The rules still apply. Trolling, spamming, etc will continue to be dealt with, but it’s not an excuse to act as if respecting someones pronouns is optional.

    • @PugJesusEnglish
      9•5 days ago

      Apparently they are included, by the actions of the admins in the linked thread.

      • @[email protected]
        23•5 days ago

        NP don’t bother me at all, but that user intentionally stirs the shit in myriad other ways. Short account lifetime, TONS of replies, intentionally controversial posts, feels the need to comment on every single post that gets traction. I think “we should be nice to AI because it might be alive” has been my least favorite arc so far, close between that and declaring all of lemmy transphobic (in a BZ post no less). Block drag and move on. This post was proof enough for me personally it was a great choice.

        • qazMEnglish
          17•3 days ago

          Aside from all the drama, they also encouraged users to commit suicide (which is why they were banned from trans on blahaj) and used sock puppet accounts. They were banned from 196 2 days ago.

            • qazMEnglish
              10•5 days ago

              I copied from another comment using “he” and forget the right pronouns for a second, it’s fixed now.

              (Kinda ironic I forgot, since the whole thing started with their neopronouns 😅)

              • @[email protected]
                6•5 days ago

                (Kinda ironic I forgot, since the whole thing started with **his** neopronouns 😅)

                Ha, you did it again! ;)

                • qazMEnglish
                  9•5 days ago

                  Time to go to bed I guess