Are people actually happy that I tried? Sometimes I wonder if they genuinely appreciate being admired, or if it’s damage control to make the rejection a bit sweeter to swallow
At one point in life, you just don’t care. When I was younger, I always wondered what people thought of what I said, what I did, didn’t say or didn’t do. I got tired of trying to figure out what others were thinking.
Now I just do my best, treat people with kindness and respect and if they react negatively for whatever reason, I ignore it and move on. I also learn to stand up for myself and if someone treats me negatively or unkindly, then I defend myself and stand up for myself or others if I have to.
I’ve grown to appreciate the old saying: ‘How people think of me is none of my business’
The benefit is that every once in a while (not every time), you get to meet some really honestly genuine kind and good hearted people.
Yep, makes sense to me based on my experience. People do not let down very nicely if you aren’t friends, not because they are mean, but because they most likely don’t care.
Are people actually happy that I tried? Sometimes I wonder if they genuinely appreciate being admired, or if it’s damage control to make the rejection a bit sweeter to swallow
At one point in life, you just don’t care. When I was younger, I always wondered what people thought of what I said, what I did, didn’t say or didn’t do. I got tired of trying to figure out what others were thinking.
Now I just do my best, treat people with kindness and respect and if they react negatively for whatever reason, I ignore it and move on. I also learn to stand up for myself and if someone treats me negatively or unkindly, then I defend myself and stand up for myself or others if I have to.
I’ve grown to appreciate the old saying: ‘How people think of me is none of my business’
The benefit is that every once in a while (not every time), you get to meet some really honestly genuine kind and good hearted people.
Good idea. I guess not caring is better for mental health, too
Did it come naturally to you or you worked on it thru books, therapy and whatnot?
Even the fact that they try to do some damage control means they care in a way, otherwise they wouldn’t be bothered by the idea of upsetting you.
Yep, makes sense to me based on my experience. People do not let down very nicely if you aren’t friends, not because they are mean, but because they most likely don’t care.