Stop making those stupid self-deprecating jokes. No one sees you more negatively than you yourself do (because no one cares, honestly), so fake confidence and get to know the girl you like. Then you could actually make a decision whether this person is best for you
It’s a meme.
Loads of people identify with it though. Maybe you don’t but the GP comment was not addressing you specifically. It was addressing those who identify with the meme!
If you go in with the mindset that girls are some safeboxes that you just need to open to get the stuff inside then you lost before even starting imo
Tell that to my collection of organs in jars.
Gotta get on that organ grindset
Its more like trying to cross a minefield in total darkness and not even knowing what’s on the other side.
At first I thought the first image was a server room…
All you need to do is sit back and watch. With the occasional rare exception, most everyone I’ve ever seen try is middling to just awful at “picking up” girls.
Plus, a lot of the time, we’re talking about the social equivalent of a “cold call.” You’re a complete stranger selling something they didn’t even ask for. So… don’t! Take some time and integrate to a social group or two (if you can). Become a familiar face. Things happen much more fluidly on referral anyway.
I mean, if someone shows up with those keys and a piece of cheese, I guarantee that I will be fascinated.
What kind of cheese are we talking here?
Kraft Singles
It’s like I’m trying to crack the enigma but I only barely passed high school math.
You people have flirting skills?
inserts key Does this turn you on?
Make a dexterity check.
More often than not, it doesn’t matter what key you use. Most people are just happy and even surprised that you tried.
Are people actually happy that I tried? Sometimes I wonder if they genuinely appreciate being admired, or if it’s damage control to make the rejection a bit sweeter to swallow
At one point in life, you just don’t care. When I was younger, I always wondered what people thought of what I said, what I did, didn’t say or didn’t do. I got tired of trying to figure out what others were thinking.
Now I just do my best, treat people with kindness and respect and if they react negatively for whatever reason, I ignore it and move on. I also learn to stand up for myself and if someone treats me negatively or unkindly, then I defend myself and stand up for myself or others if I have to.
I’ve grown to appreciate the old saying: ‘How people think of me is none of my business’
The benefit is that every once in a while (not every time), you get to meet some really honestly genuine kind and good hearted people.
Good idea. I guess not caring is better for mental health, too
Did it come naturally to you or you worked on it thru books, therapy and whatnot?
Even the fact that they try to do some damage control means they care in a way, otherwise they wouldn’t be bothered by the idea of upsetting you.
Yep, makes sense to me based on my experience. People do not let down very nicely if you aren’t friends, not because they are mean, but because they most likely don’t care.
Plus you can always laugh about it afterwards (as long as it’s not a creepy/intrusive/tasteless attempt at flirting), and that can serve just as well!
I fully accepted my complete lack of game, so I purposefully turn flirting into a playful parody with extra-campy Smooth™ lathered all over that puppy, and the reactions so far have been really positive!
I still can’t tell when someone else is flirting with me, though, so I just joke about that, too! I make it clear that my love language isn’t Sexy Talk in general, so I just ask “are you flirting with me right now?” at inappropriate times, which nets me at least a frustrated chuckle.
As a great man once said: “you laughed, I’m off the hook!”
I’m happily married for a very long time now and what I’ve noticed is that just being kind, attentive and listening is sometimes more than enough for some people to think that you are interested or flirting. I would never cheat but I’ve stepped into situations like this by accident more often than I care to admit.
Oh, yepyep, honest and open communication is vital in everything! And I agree that “to each their own,” we all have our own love languages and respond in our own unique ways to everything!
I think your point is even reinforced by contemporary circumstances, as a whole damned lot of us would almost kill for a bit of kindness and soft attention…
life is kerule
If I were to design something hi tech af this is the kind of peripheral it would need so that everyone thinks ‘nah this key doesn’t go to this shit’
You are finding the wrong girls. No one is worth that kind of effort.
Maybe just never found a vault that tight 🥵
