21 year old German here.
This question is for Americans who have been to Germany before (or might’ve had any interaction with Germans). And I know there are a lot of Americans on this platform who bash and hate on their own country but I hope to get an answer that’s as truthful and unbiased as possible.
So as someone who’s very sensitive I always felt like people here are way too cruel and direct. It’s a prevalent stereotype that Germans are very direct and cold. I know that a big part of this is my own perception and mental state that will cause these types of perceptions independent from the country because there will always be assholes.
But I wonder if it could be true that some of my observation might actually be because Germans might actually be more cruel. If you guys are really honest I wonder if it is possible that Americans might be slightly more nice than Germans and which country you think is actually more cruel in general. (Hope this question is not too stupid)
Man that sounds so much like me, so at least I’m not alone. Maybe it’s some curse about the Germans. I wouldn’t recommend judging people from just online though since that often is pretty misrepresentative from how they actually are. So even if some of the Germans were nice online, belief me there are a lot of not so nice Germans including my parents.
But you’re definitely right especially about the last part.
I can only judge people from how I get to see them act. For much of my life my family would say I was about worthless, and I don’t think that’s true, so I’d never want to do that to someone else. Everyone gets the benefit of the doubt to start with though.
Just do your best and you will eventually meet people who are the type of people you want. There might never be as many as you may hope, but they’re out there! I have some great friends I consider closer than my family, but most of us have been messed up a little along the way by someone or another. We just commiserate about what our families put us through. 🙄