• GreenKnight23
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    7 hours ago

    Ask her regularly if something is bothering her

    yeah…that’s a one way road to hell.

    • The Stoned Hacker
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      4 hours ago

      I mean this is sound advice that can go wrong if you hace the emotional intelligence of a doorknob (whicgmh is a lot of people, mostly men). Don’t just ask “is something botheribg you” so dryly and regularly you becomw whafs bothering her, but open lines of communication where you make it clear that you’re trying to improve your communication and then genuinely check in on her. Dont just ask if something is bothwring her, but find out how shes been and what may be adding stress into her life. Don’t immediately seek to fix it, but try to understand if she just needs to vent stress or if there are issues you can tsckle together. If an issue is identified, remember it is you and her vs the issue, not you vs her.