I had a friend who when we wanted to swim on Sunday at his house and nobody was home, discovered there were no clean towels. He said we couldn’t wash some and therefore couldn’t swim because he “wasn’t allowed to use the laundry machine”. Not like an authoritarian thing, that he never learned how and had broken it before somehow.
First off, no one ever deserves to be the target of anyone’s aggression, full stop. Mistakes happen, we should determine how to lower their likelihood and their impact, not punish the ones who already feel the worst about it.
Second off, notice how your example doesn’t match the example I gave and that your point was “what about this thing that wasn’t covered by your example?” Does… does that make sense for you to do?
If your teenager doesn’t know how to take a bag out of one box and put it in another box or scrub the night nut out of his own undershorts you’re fucking up.
Listen. You being mad is fine. You taking it out on someone who isn’t even expected to do their own laundry is something else entirely.
What 14yo isn’t already doing their own laundry? That’s setting them up for failure/being a pain in the arse to whomever is their future partner.
I had a friend who when we wanted to swim on Sunday at his house and nobody was home, discovered there were no clean towels. He said we couldn’t wash some and therefore couldn’t swim because he “wasn’t allowed to use the laundry machine”. Not like an authoritarian thing, that he never learned how and had broken it before somehow.
First off, no one ever deserves to be the target of anyone’s aggression, full stop. Mistakes happen, we should determine how to lower their likelihood and their impact, not punish the ones who already feel the worst about it.
Second off, notice how your example doesn’t match the example I gave and that your point was “what about this thing that wasn’t covered by your example?” Does… does that make sense for you to do?
Are you ok?
If your teenager doesn’t know how to take a bag out of one box and put it in another box or scrub the night nut out of his own undershorts you’re fucking up.