• Captain Aggravated
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      3411 months ago

      You’re missing at least one asterisk: There should be some consideration for her partner’s privacy.

      I don’t think I’m the only man that has observed more than one partner behaving as if she’d rather have bad sex then gossip about it than tell me what she likes and then have good sex. Just…not react at all to questions like “what do you like? Does that feel good? What do you want to do tonight?” She’ll address the United Nations with an ordered list of her recent sexual disappointments, but she won’t say “do me like this” to her partner’s face.

    • @Son_of_dad
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      1011 months ago

      It is better to just tell your partner what you like, so you don’t have to bitch later

      • @Num10ck
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        511 months ago

        for some the bitching is the point.

      • @HowManyNimons
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        111 months ago

        Probably a good idea to float the idea of hitting someone on the vagina before busting out that particular move. It’s quite plausible that they aren’t going to like it.

        • @Son_of_dad
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          111 months ago

          You don’t go into it doing a slap challenge. You get her going, then you give her box a couple little soft swats and you watch her reaction

      • @[email protected]
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        011 months ago

        sometimes people talk with people about sex without ever intending to have sex with each other. like we do rn. open discussion culture.

        I agree, talking desires/needs directly, but as with every activity, humans have the capability to reflect on said activities and talking about that with your partner can improve the sex you share