How to get out of an uncomfortable egg culture situation with this one simple trick.

Real talk: Calling people eggs is a violation of the egg prime directive, and is considered invalidating as you are trying to say that a person is not the gender they identify as, that their identity is invalid. Don’t call people eggs, like ever, it’s extremely uncool.

  • livus
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    10 months ago

    Wait when did “egg” in the context of gender and sexuality become a thing?

    “You egg” is an old insult in New Zealand since at least the 1980s meaning you are a dork or loveable idiot.

    Edit: there’s heaps of examples in Taika Waititi’s NZ films.

    • tb_
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      Realising one is trans is often called “cracking your egg”. Calling someone an egg in this context means insinuating the person is trans (and hasn’t realised it yet).

      • Turun
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        510 months ago

        Not necessarily trans, it’s just being unsure about which gender direction you want to choose. Nonbinary and “actually I am cis” are also valid outcomes after cracking.

        • @Jarix
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          210 months ago

          Wild that you just called gender a choice

          • Turun
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            Didn’t even think about that interpretation of my comment, lol

            When you grow up your sex is like the default setting for your gender. I meant it in the sense that when you grow up you get to choose how you want to express yourself. Deviation from the default setting as a choice, not like you can choose your gender. There are very strong correlations in the brain structure of trans people with people of their whished-to-be-born-as sex.

      • livus
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        510 months ago

        @tb_ thanks, got it. Has it been a thing for many years or is it new?

        • jawa21
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          Not many years, but far from new in internet time scales. Maybe in the last decade or so.

          • livus
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            @jawa21 now that I’m really thinking about it, I think I’ve probably seen people using it to refer to themselves but not using it on others as an insult.

            • @[email protected]
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              That’s how it’s supposed to be used, r/egg_irl was pretty big, and now there is [email protected]

              Both are mostly people suspecting they are trans, and coming to accept themselves

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      It’s similar to being in the closet. When you come out as a trans person, you “come out of your shell” so to speak. As such, people who haven’t are considered to be “eggs” still inside their shells.

      • @[email protected]
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        110 months ago

        While we are talking about that, wouldn’t chrysalis be more fitting?

        When the trans person hatches a beautiful butterfly emerges from the chrysalis.

        • @[email protected]
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          210 months ago

          Perhaps. I didn’t make the analogy. Personally, as a completely cis person, I think they both work really well. Maybe there’s some more significant meaning from another perspective.

        • @[email protected]
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          210 months ago

          They say that when the egg cracks, a cute chick comes out. Chick referring to both a trans woman and a baby chicken. Doesn’t work for trans men but that’s how the term started I believe.

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      I think if you make sure to call someone an “igg”, or preferably, a “bliddy igg”, then should still be fine