So I’ve realized that in conversations I’ll use traditional terms for men as general terms for all genders, both singularly and for groups. I always mean it well, but I’ve been thinking that it’s not as inclusive to women/trans people.

For example I would say:

“What’s up guys?” “How’s it going man?” "Good job, my dude!” etc.

Replacing these terms with person, people, etc sounds awkward. Y’all works but sounds very southern US (nowhere near where I am located) so it sounds out of place.

So what are some better options?

Edit: thanks for all the answers peoples, I appreciate the honest ones and some of the funny ones.

The simplest approach is to just drop the usage of guys, man, etc. Folks for groups and mate for singular appeal to me when I do want to add one in between friends.

  • Jo Miran
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    Y’all doesn’t get enough love. It is gender neutral and extremely versatile.

        • @[email protected]
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          if you’re less formal

          What a fun way to phrase that. You’re not wrong but it’s making me giggle.

        • Cyborganism
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          2210 months ago

          I’m under the impression that you pronounce it the same way this cat looks.

        • Resol van Lemmy
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          210 months ago

          I still wonder why English (a Germanic language) doesn’t have its own pronoun for the plural 2nd person like German (euch) or Dutch (jullie), I think it kinda helps with distinction between talking to one person and talking to multiple people.

          The problem is… what pronoun should we choose? I think “yinz” would sound kinda cool, but nobody outside of a very specific spot in the US actually uses it (other than myself I guess).

    • I agree. It’s the plural of “you” that should be the official standard, since it disambiguates “you.” It can even be broadened to include larger groups via “all y’all,” as in, not just y’all in talking to, but all y’all in the house.

      It can replace “guys”, but not “man,” though.

      • jungle
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        1510 months ago

        The plural of you is yous or ye. In Ireland at least.

      • clif
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        310 months ago

        Do you work with me? I’m in the US south and my EU colleagues love “y’all” and have started using it (ironically or not :) pretty often.

        Warms my heart.

        • The Giant Korean
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          310 months ago

          I have no hint of a Southern accent, but when I moved here “y’all” became almost an instant part of my vocabulary.

    • Bob
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      It sounds cringeworthy if you’re not American though. The standard way of saying it is “you lot” and other dialects, like mine, have “yous”.

      • flicker
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        210 months ago

        Here where I’m from in the US, you occasionally hear a “y’alls” and now I’m going to start using it as a cultural gap between your dialect and mine.

        • @[email protected]
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          10 months ago

          Where I’m from people just assume you’re a hick is you say y’all. It’s not very common in the northern, out Midwest of the US, but everywhere in the south.

    • @Purplexingg
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      210 months ago

      I can’t do it, I don’t want to sound like I’m from the South.