antibigotry notice
this post does not support or normalize misgendering nonbinary people. wakko generally seems to canonically accept he/him pronouns, but if that weren’t the case the behavior exhibited in this post would be unacceptable, harmful, and vehemently condemned, and would be showcased here only as an example of and condemnation against bigotry, and should not be understood as condoning.
Assuming this is a genuine question and purely speaking from my own perspective and experience, and opinion:
I find it a little irksome when others make snap judgements about me on first sight or with very little interaction, because I don’t like being put into categorization based on assumptions from others. I’m not keen on categorization/social boxes at all, but I get why it’s a thing (brains like shortcuts, essentially). To me, calling someone a gender leaning term based purely on looks feels similar to calling someone Greg because they seem like a Greg. It’s a situation where even if it is an accurate assumption, it still feels rude, because it’s filling in a lot of information about a person without checking if that info is correct.
IDK. I understand that you dislike it, but making assumptions is a pretty big part of being human. “The one that doesn’t can throw the first stone” and so on. Trying to change that might even be counterproductive.
The world is so complicated already, there is no need to make it even more so. If someone makes the wrong assumption, then don’t assume it was with a bad intention, they might be confused, or just made a bad joke (Like calling random people Greg.). Just talk to them and clear it up. Understanding and empathy to your co-creatures is important. No need to antagonize them because of their ignorance. Everyone has a right to be ignorant sometimes. Ignorance is not intolerance, so we should tolerate it to some degree, if we want to live in a tolerant society.
Don’t assume that the world is against you, most people are just unaware and inattentive, while busy with their own issues.