• mommykink
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    559 months ago

    Every woman who talks to me wants to see my genitals.

  • bruhduh
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    The problem is… How do you know when she interested and when not interested if she just chatting normally, i mean, I’ve been called dense many times when she didn’t do even slightest signs of affection, just friendly chatting, that’s it

    • @[email protected]
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      119 months ago

      You show signs you like her and see how she responds. You write like you want women to offer themselves up and you pick which one you want. Nah… You offer yourself and see if she’s into it. Be subtle enough she’s not sure if you’re interested at first and ramp up until presence or lack of mutual interest becomes clear.

      If the vibe turns sexy awkward ask her out. If it turns icky awkward just stop. Letting her go gracefully when she’s not into you is key. If you over invest or don’t drop it you’ll get labeled creepy.

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        Every one of those who tried to talk to me? It would be kinda cringe, there should be at least SOME signs like touching hair or something, but they did NONE of them, well… Looks like i attract some tsunderes or something, only 2 SHOWED little signs, others just call me dense if i don’t initiate myself

        • Instigate
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          Ehh, that’s a self-selecting feature there mate. You don’t want to be with someone who communicates through inscrutable clues and then becomes upset if you don’t pick up on them or read them wrong. That’s a recipe for an emotional bad time.

          • bruhduh
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            • Instigate
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              Some people play those mindgames not because they believe in them, but because they believe that’s how you’re supposed to act when dating. This is particularly common for younger people with less dating experience, and is often introduced/reinforced by media narratives. I think you’ll find that being direct while also very courteous and polite will have the best results as you may catch someone who is actually thankful not to have to go through the rigamarole of silly dating games.

              Something along the lines of:

              “Hey, so I think you’re really interesting and I’d love to grab a coffee/drink/meal with you sometime if you’re interested”.

              If you face any resistance whatsoever, back down politely. Something like:

              “No problems at all! Thanks for being direct with me, I really appreciate it. Let me know if you change your mind.”

              You’ll put off people who want to be chased but trust me - they never tire of the chase and you definitely will before they do. I’ve been with someone before who needed to be chased and it’s exhausting. This method means you’re whittling down potential dates which may seem difficult at the time but you’ll thank yourself for it later.

              Fingers crossed you meet someone you vibe with mate!

        • @Shellbeach
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          119 months ago

          Just the ones you’re interested in romantically.

        • @[email protected]
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          89 months ago

          Are you trying to date every single woman who talks to you?

          I would chat for a bit and if you are feeling it say, “I’ve enjoyed our time together. Would you like to go on a date and see if our connection develops further?”, or something like that.

          I’m not an expert in dating by any means, and I get that flirting exists, but I don’t have time for anyone who would be offended by a straight-forward question like this.

        • SharkEatingBreakfast
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          49 months ago

          Every one of those who tried to talk to me?

          The ones you are interested in a more romantic relationship with, yes.

      • @[email protected]
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        39 months ago

        If you can’t communicate clearly, you’re not ready to be in a relationship.

        Not sure if you mean the person you’re replying to or the women in question

  • GladiusB
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    179 months ago

    There is a difference between hard to get and impossible to get

    • @Agent641
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      Help me reject this boy

        • @[email protected]
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          It was a meme somewhere on Lemmy yesterday. It was a girl accidentally sending a screenshot and texting that to the boy.

          • GladiusB
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            Oh I saw that. I just didn’t connect what I said to what you said.

  • THE MASTERMIND
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    Lol true not everyone wants to fuck everyone people men and women could be just friends

      • nifty
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        69 months ago

        Also wtf? So what if they do?

            • @[email protected]
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              49 months ago

              African American Vernacular English

              I’m not really educated enough on the subject to say too much about it without sounding ignorant, but that’ll get your google search started

            • @Drivebyhaiku
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              19 months ago

              An acronym is a word that when it’s abbreviated you say aloud like it’s a proper word. Take for instance Self Contained Underwater Breathing Aparatus… When you say it aloud it creates a word. Scuba.

              Initnialisms are abbreviations that when you talk about them don’t get turned into words but you spell them out by letter. Like FBI. You don’t say something like “Ffffbee” cus it’s kind of awkward. You refer to it by it’s initials hence initialism.

              Sometimes you get a weird distinction where something could be easily both but culture makes it one or the other like the World Health Oganization could have easily been an acronym but for clarity sake they chose to propagate it as the initialism. W. H. O.

              • jawa21
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                I was asking about the initialism in the previous comment, not what the word itself means. I assumed that no one is going to attempt to pronounce that.