For me it was these.

“A focused fool can accomplish more than a distracted genius”

“Until the lion learns to write, every story will glorify the hunter”

These two quotes really helped get my @** in gear.

  • Ada
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    “The first thing that jumps to your mind isn’t always what you truly think. Sometimes, it’s just what you’ve been trained to think. What matters, is what you do next”

    I grew up in a really racist, queerphobic environment, and that comment really helped me by letting me give myself space to undo the bigoted indoctrination I had been taught, without getting trapped in guilt and self disgust whenever one of the racist or bigoted things I was raised with jumped in to my mind.

    It let me recognise the bigoted thought as something I was trained to think, rather than being what I actually believe, and by recognising it, I could disempower the thought, and start to unlearn it

    • @[email protected]OP
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      That’s a powerful thought.

      Conditioning significantly influences our psyche.

      These thoughts that are the result of conditioning are like knee jerk reactions.

      Our brain is designed to conserve energy so it actually prioritises conditioned knee jerk reactions rather than introspective thoughts.

      One needs significant amount of training to bypass this process.

    • @lanolinoil
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      Similarly if you shit talk yourself in your head to motivate yourself it really will eventually start to condition you that way even if it does motivate you

    • @lanolinoil
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      As someone who hasn’t had to go through anything that hard, finally accepting this one was so important

    • @[email protected]
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      99 months ago

      That’s why whenever someone cuts me off in traffic, I say, “wow, that guy really must have to poop.”

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        Whenever someone in a large truck is driving like an asshole I always think “wow he must be in a rush to go kiss his dad 😊”

  • @Outsider9042
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    Be excellent to each other, and party on dudes.

  • @[email protected]
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    a tumblr meme about replacing self deprecating humor with over the top self belief humor.

    not even kidding, was doomscrolling, this jumped into my feed and burnt itself into my brain and 4 years of doing precisely that later, i’m better than ever and it’s also just a way to break the ice sometimes.

    • @littlewonder
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      Can you elaborate on the over-the-top self-belief humor?

      • @[email protected]
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        when you don’t know something, saying shit like “despite my infinite wisdom, this eludes me” instead of “sorry i just dont know”

        just stuff that stands out, gets a chuckle off of people, but is so obviously exaggerated that people know you don’t actually believe that you are infinitely wise.

        and the greatest thing is that after a while you also incorporate these phrases when talking about/to others, so when you need help or something, you ask for their infinite wisdom.

        (sry for the late answer im not used to getting interactions on social media lol)

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    “You cannot love someone else until you love yourself.”

    My dad raised me on this. If don’t see yourself worthy of love from even yourself, you’ll never be able to accept it from someone else. Healthy love is mutual. Also, this ties back into the idea that if you don’t see yourself worthy of love, it means you need to work on yourself until you do rather than trying to fill that gap with someone else.

    • @[email protected]
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      39 months ago

      I found that same nugget just under a decade ago. Dropped off the dating scene to work on myself. It really made me reflect. I’m still working on myself and honestly I suspect I will be for a while to come.

      • @[email protected]
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        It took me over 6 years after my first serious relationship to really start figuring myself out and getting in tune with who I really was. I’m definitely still on the path and I realize more and more why my last relationship ended. It really was the best thing for me at the time.

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          When I first came across that wisdom I realized my desire in a relationship was to just pour myself into the other person, basically worship them. But not for their benefit, but to distract myself from myself. It’s fairly easy to see how that goes wrong.

          I’m still learning, and I’ve found even more stuff I need to work on, but either I get there or I don’t, what matters if I never stopped trying.

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        Reminds me of 28 Days.

        I did not kill this plant, it was sick or something. I gave it everything. I was talking to it, telling it stories. I drew a sketch of it, and put it on my refrigerator.

        Did you water it?

        I killed the plant.

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      Similarly. You cannot forgive yourself until your forgive your transgressor. Pent up anger is no god for your health.

  • @vladmech
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    “The most important step a man can take is the next one”
    And
    “Sometimes a hypocrite is nothing more than a man in the process of changing”

    • DarkInspiration
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      Dalinar really has some of the best quotes in Stormlight

      • @[email protected]
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        19 months ago

        Just finished the Mistborn series (serieses? What’s the plural of series?) with my son. We’re about to start Stormlight. I’ve already read them once, but am stoked to read them again and have my son experience them for the first time!

        • DarkInspiration
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          Serii? (lol)

          I hope he enjoys it too! Those are some very amazing books, although their size might be a bit dauting for some people.

          I’m also looking forward to Stormilght 5 this december. Have to start my re-read in preparation for it soon.

          • @[email protected]
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            Stormlight 5 coming out is exactly why I decided to start with my son now! If we time it right, we should be pretty close to when 5 is released!

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    “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”
        - Ferris Bueller, from the movie Ferris Bueller’s Day Off.

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      I love that movie for so many reasons.

      I loved that if you stayed through the credits there was a small bit there.

      I think it was the first movie to do that.

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    This saying in my local tounge

    Which roughly translates to

    “You small, I big , this thought of world is incorrect, A Thirsty man feels the the ocean is smaller than than a glass of fresh water”

    Imagine above is a really Catchy rhyming.

    I don’t think anyone will understand but here it is in local tounge trying to write the sound in English.

    Tu nano, hu moto, e khyal jagat no koto. Tarsa ne to dariya karta loto lage moto.

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      Does it mean that one shouldn’t think of others as small or inferior? That one is seeing others as small because of their thirst for(or lack of access to) power or so?

      Which language is this in? Some words seem familiar. Hindi(an Indian language) has the word khayal(thought).

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        It means no person it more valuable than other. When you need help of someone he is the most valuable to you no matter how small he is.

        Overall idea is that everyone has their own place in world and no one is above anyone else

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            It’s similar in sound but in written form the individual characters are different.

            Some characters are identifiable by their similar shapes but many are different,

            Aa - આ -

            Pa - પ

            Ra - ર

            India - ઇન્ડિયા

            Bharat - ભારત

  • Wild Bill
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    ”Do you miss the person or do you miss the memories?”

    It really helps me get over friendship breakups and cope in a more reasonable way, since most of the time I just miss the memories associated with the person.

  • @scorpious
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    "Security does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Life either a daring adventure or nothing.”

    • Helen Keller
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      Wow – great one I haven’t heard this before

  • @lanolinoil
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    “There were all kinds of things I was afraid of at first, ranging from grizzly bears to ‘mean’ horses and gun-fighters; but by acting as if I was not afraid I gradually ceased to be afraid.” ― Theodore Roosevelt

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    When I started my now mostly unused school laptop with dualboot (Windows/Debian) at 3 AM in the basement to solve a router issue. This pretty cheap laptop booted in mere seconds to a completely usable state, sparing my tired self from waiting in the cold for too long.

    Right there, in the middle of the night, a flash of inspiration struck me!

    How could it be that my way too expensive desktop gaming PC took longer to be ready for everything than this old piece of plastic? What if I completely switched my main machine to Linux, not only for testing, but for real? How awesome would it be to have customization freedom and full control over my own device, without a company spying on me, taking away options or using me as their guinea pig for the next untested updates?

    And that’s how it began. Linux Mint as a safe start, then Kubuntu for more customization with KDE Plasma. After that, EndeavourOS for the latest software, and finally Arch Linux … for the lulz (btw).

    • Ada
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      This was my approach to things even as a kid. I didn’t care who got the bigger “half” between my brother and I, because I wasn’t going to care once I’d eaten it. All I would remember is that I’d eaten it :)

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          It’s usually not so much jealosy as a sense of fairness. Sometimes that judgment is skewed, maybe they don’t remember they had the largest part last time for instance, but kids tend to be ok with situations they percieve as fair and very unhappy with situations that seem unfair.