• @stupidcasey
    link
    32 hours ago

    I’ll take top middle since being active is proven to be one of the best things for depression and yes I know it won’t cure clinical depression but since he has no way of knowing what kind of depression you have it is genuinely good advice and said with the best of intentions.

    • @Agent641
      link
      1
      edit-2
      25 minutes ago

      He also wants you to join his vegan Crossfit gym. It’s only $600/month. It’s at a local park.

  • @[email protected]
    link
    fedilink
    10
    edit-2
    12 hours ago

    My mother, who knows and supports my medication, and understands the swings, Is always telling me about this vitamin, or that herb, and often advocates walks in nature. Before diagnosis and medication, when I was in the lows, she would try to help with some of these, especially the nature walks. I would tell her that sure, it was proven it helps, but I’f I havent managed to get in the shower for a week, do you expect me to go hiking?

    She was supportive and well meaning, and I appreciate the effort, but yeah fuck many of these.

  • Lad
    link
    fedilink
    2515 hours ago

    3, 4, and 5 I would tell to fuck off.

    1 and 6 meh.

    2 is probably the guy I would most want to listen to.

    • @Pronell
      link
      2315 hours ago

      2 is high as hell. He isn’t wrong, but he’s also medicating.

    • zout
      link
      fedilink
      314 hours ago

      6 could fuck off too. I loathe these one-uppers.

      • @FireRetardant
        link
        1914 hours ago

        Sometimes they are just trying to relate by going “yeah I’ve had a similar experience” but it can come off as selfish if they focus on it too much or cut off your story to tell theirs.

        • zout
          link
          fedilink
          237 minutes ago

          I know. Specifically, I mean the kind of people where you can tell from the moment you start talking, they’re listening not to your story, but for a hook to turn the story about them. I have a coworker like that, if I tell a story about something that happened to me this week, he’ll tell a story about what happened to him or his family 20 years ago, which by the way is way worse/better. He is also always the hero in these stories. I find most of these people are deeply insecure and try to cover this with a big mouth. So, bully behaviour basically.

        • @NegativeInf
          link
          512 hours ago

          My ADHD tells me to try and empathize by sharing a similar experience. It took me so long to realize people were taking it as “one upping” no I just don’t share anything.

          • @FireRetardant
            link
            312 hours ago

            Yea same here. I’ve learned to let to them get their full story out, then I ask if I may share a similar experience,

  • Blackout
    link
    fedilink
    1815 hours ago

    Trump voters have a pretty novel way to handle this. When they lost to Biden they didn’t get sad, they got angry. Fast forward 4 years when they won and they didn’t get happy, no, they got angry again. If all you feel is anger you have no room for sadness or happiness, just more anger.

  • masterofn001
    link
    fedilink
    312 hours ago

    In Canada : have you considered MAID

    (Medical assistance in dying : aka suicide)

  • ZerlynaM
    link
    English
    314 hours ago

    Maybe I should do that again. Bad weekend, I kind of picked a fight with my partner and it seems we have broken up. It’s our third major blowup in three years - well, my major blow up. But I’m not sure we were compatible either. And he blames my bipolar all the time.

    • @[email protected]
      link
      fedilink
      212 hours ago

      Well, when I was untreated I definitely made my ex-wife’s life worse. She called the it “The Jeckill and Hyde” and she wasn’t all that wrong.

      Are you properly medicated?

      • ZerlynaM
        link
        English
        1
        edit-2
        11 hours ago

        I did switch up meds a few weeks ago and he knew that.