Fro some reason without paying much attention to the time duration it took a friend to reply I always end up replying within the same amount of time as my friends without thinking much of it, then I’ll see the time they sent the message.
If a friend replies in an hour I typically respond probably subconsciously in an hour (plus or minus 10 minutes), then realize it took them an hour after I respond. Idk why.
Is this something “normal”? Does anyone else do this?
I used to do these things unconsciously. I’d read the message from the notification, and reply some time later on. So you’re not the only one.
But now I notice when I’m about to do it, and instead just reply when I can. If it just arrived I’ll reply now.
Only cases nowadays is when a reply requires thought and space of mind for me to reply. so I read the message and remind myself later to re read and reply.
As other mentioned before, I don’t see a point in hiding the fact that I was using my phone at this second. There’s nothing wrong or shameful about it. Sometimes you’re more available, sometimes less. If the other side is busy they’ll just reply when they can. you don’t need to hold for them.
At a guess, I’d say it’s confirmation bias
Subconscious reciprocity due to insecurity and not wanting to annoy.
I’d say that’s pretty typical. Nobody wants to pester or to leave someone hanging, but that timeframe is different for every relationship.
I think most people do it, too. Probably just one of those weird human things.
On one hand, it’s a bad to look “desperate” and on the other hand, I assume that if they’re taking a while to respond, they’re probably busy and I should hit them up later.
it’s a bad to look “desperate”
I see this from time to time, and really all I can think is “do people really think like this?”
I work from home and a lot of times while waiting for CI I take a look at my phone and oftentimes I get texts and respond immediately.
Who is it exactly that would perceive this as desperate? I’m not going to hide the fact I was at my phone when I was just to make people think higher of me, and I really don’t understand this thinking at all.
If you respond instantly at any point during the day it can mean you’re not doing anything the entire day or you’re actually desperate for interaction. If you don’t feel secure in your relationship with someone you might want them to think you have a lot going on.
Also, some research shows being less available can make you seem more valuable. This article is related to business relationships but it’s the same principle. https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/18/smarter-living/benefits-of-being-scarce.html
I agree with what you’re saying. if you just happen to be on the phone when someone texts, there’s no problem in answering immediately.
I don’t think anyone is “desperate” is they reply quick. I just think they replied quick.
If I think they’re busy and don’t wanna interrupt, then they’ll just read the message at their own time. Don’t see any reason to play these games.
It’s probably that you have a similar or even shared microbiome. Similar living conditions, or maybe your vibes/rythms just sync up over time.
probably people just take about that long to decide what to say and type it out
