If I’m in a room with people I know and I plan to leave the room for a long time, I tell them where I’m going. If it’s for a short time I do not.

What (if anything) is an appropriate time scale to leave a room without announcing when/if you’ll be back?

  • @[email protected]
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    22 hours ago

    Like yeah maybe it kind of depends what environment and what people you’re talking about. When I’m in the waiting room at the bus station I don’t tell anyone anything about where I’m going or how long I’m going to be gone because it’s not their business. And when I’m leaving work to go home at 4:30 or whatever, I say goodbye, and I don’t tell people that I’ll be back tomorrow at 8:30, because it’s kind of obvious unless it’s the weekend and then it’s still kind of obvious. So what are you even talking about? I’m just not following.

  • @[email protected]
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    1518 hours ago

    Time doesnt really matter. The way to exit is pound your drink, shatter glass on floor, say “later bitches”, chicken strut out the door.

  • Mayor Poopington
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    1819 hours ago

    well if you say youre going for smokes i know you arent coming back

  • unknown1234_5
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    515 hours ago

    I’d say anything longer than five minutes, with anything less getting at most a “I’ll be right back” with a gesture in the direction you’re going.

  • @[email protected]
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    517 hours ago

    Always depends on context. If you are out somewhere it is good to let them know so they don’t think you left to go home. If its at somebody elseshouse probably no need to mention, if you are the host then good to let this m know if you had something that will take you away for extended period so they aren’t left wondering. Read the room/situations.

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    518 hours ago

    There’s this saying “this isn’t an airport, no need to announce your departure”. So unless there’s an actual need for people to know where I am going and/or why, there’s no point in telling them.

    If the people in the room are your close friends, that’s a different question though.

  • Tinwelint
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    619 hours ago

    I tend to never tell people and just be like « cya » because it’s not their business.

    • @[email protected]OP
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      1919 hours ago

      My girlfriend would be very unhappy with me I spontaneously left for a couple of days in this way.

      • XIIIesq
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        I say goodbye to my girlfriend every time I leave, even if she already knows where I’m going and how long I’ll be.

        Not if I’m just going to the toilet, but if I’m going to work or something. I’d especially say bye if it was for a couple of days!

      • swab148
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        312 hours ago

        “Alright, see ya later, babe!”

        finally shows up after five years

        “I said ‘later’”

  • u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org)
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    518 hours ago

    I don’t announce it, and clearly nobody cares.

    Just once somebody told me, confused, “I never seen you leave, but I am seeing you come here for like 5th time. Are you jumping out of the window?” (no), and someone else just noted “Yeah, I’ve noticed that too.”

  • @[email protected]
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    215 hours ago

    I’d say that it depends on whether you expect them to be there when you return, and/or if your presence is expected in the meantime for whatever reason.

    Just have some situational awareness. Normally it wouldn’t be an issue to leave a room to get a soda from the fridge and then return. However if you’re in the middle of a timed game or while moving heavy furniture, then it would be rather annoying for the rest of the people if you just suddenly disappear without explanation.

  • @[email protected]
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    17 hours ago

    Do you think they might have expectations? If so, be considerate. If not, skip the announcement part and just go without saying a word.

    Example: There’s a family gathering, and you’re expecting to have lunch within the next 30 minutes. Everyone expects you to be there in the same table. If you need to go put out a fire of some sort, you’ll just say that you need to take care of something urgent and you’ll be back within the same day.

    Let’s say your cousin crashed their car on a tree, and you need to pull it back on the road with a tractor. It’s going to take a few hours to do it, so you’ll just grab a sandwich and some apple juice before you go. Let everyone know that it’s going to take a while.

    If it’s a shorter thing, like getting some more milk from the local supermarket, there’s no need to announce anything. Just go, get some stuff done, and come back in time for lunch.

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    217 hours ago

    in social circles with unknown people (a bar for example), it is common curtesey to stand up, raise a glass and shout in full volume “I’m going to the shitter, yo!” before doing exactly that