Back in the day we poor people would have had all night ho downs and tore the barn down, or had naked drunk parties in the forest. We should get back to that
It’s funny, I got into my current relationship around the time the apps started coming out so I’ve never really used them, but I remember people were praising it as a lot safer for everyone involved.
And tbh I can see that being the case compared to the older school approach of nightclubs being majority populated with people actively trying to find someone to sleep with
I feel like dating apps are a lot more predatory than they were when they were first introduced. I mean predatory towards the users. Enshittified, if you will.
The companies that operate them are incentivized to keep people lonely to increase your usage for a chance you spend a little money eventually out of frustration or desperation.
Bots, catfishing, paid actors… When I attended university a while back, dating sites and their proxies unabashedly published printed ads on the blackboard for “chatting up people.” A good opportunity for students to make some money on the side as you can chose your hours quite freely. You’d never get to meet the people you chat with, of course, as that was never the intention.
This is not strictly true. In many places, even in rural areas, there are still dancing events. They are not galas, they’re an analogue for peasants, but everyone’s invited if they care to look for the events, just like it always was. I’m sorry to those who don’t have this possibility in their respective area.
I never go dancing in bals populaires whether for the forteen of July or for the fête de la musique but where do this person live not to have a place to go, dance and meet people?
I mean, if you want to go the capitalist way, nightclub are quite spread around the world…
I’ve always heared that LATAM would do the siesta cause they go dancing at night. I even meet people that move there for a few years just to enjoy the dancing culture.
I want this, but men dress up in their favorite version of “formal”. Classic black tux? Yes. A 19th century get-up complete with cravat? Absolutely. A tee with a tux printed on it & black jeans? Sure. Medieval finery? Bring it.
I want to see them trying to attract partners like they’re peacocks. I’d be curious to see who/what draws a crowd!
Women should do the same. I’d love to attend something like that!
Let’s be honest. If I was alive back then, I would have been married off in exchange for a plow, 3 pigs, and 12 sacks of potatoes, if I was lucky.
Hey, don’t sell yourself short. You’re worth at least twice that many sacks of potatoes.
Hmm 3goats take it or leave it
I’m sorry, I don’t know what to say. Literally, I don’t have any say in the matter.
Fun fact, my SO and I met at a dance (poor person gala). It still happens.
Back in the day we poor people would have had all night ho downs and tore the barn down, or had naked drunk parties in the forest. We should get back to that
Those still exist, you are just not invited to them 😛
I’ve heard you gotta go to Ren fairs to meet all the freaky swingers
You don’t HAVE to but it does make it much easier
I could be entirely wrong here, but I remember hearing that if you ever go on the Star Trek cruise, it’s advisable to bring recent STD tests.
Bunch of freaky, sex starved trekkies? No surprised
Board game nights might work, but the board game folks like pain with their casual sex
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How so? They still need people to open the doors and do the catering.
Oooh they mean as an invited person? Pwffft na mate, everyone wants to be the princess but there’s not as many openings as they think.
It’s funny, I got into my current relationship around the time the apps started coming out so I’ve never really used them, but I remember people were praising it as a lot safer for everyone involved.
And tbh I can see that being the case compared to the older school approach of nightclubs being majority populated with people actively trying to find someone to sleep with
I feel like dating apps are a lot more predatory than they were when they were first introduced. I mean predatory towards the users. Enshittified, if you will.
How? You get pictures and words from people you might like to date, same as it ever was. You can pay for bells and whistles, if you’re an idiot.
The companies that operate them are incentivized to keep people lonely to increase your usage for a chance you spend a little money eventually out of frustration or desperation.
Bots, catfishing, paid actors… When I attended university a while back, dating sites and their proxies unabashedly published printed ads on the blackboard for “chatting up people.” A good opportunity for students to make some money on the side as you can chose your hours quite freely. You’d never get to meet the people you chat with, of course, as that was never the intention.
The apps were good. But their very nature meant that a successful pairing would result in loss customers. Capitalism no likey
This is not strictly true. In many places, even in rural areas, there are still dancing events. They are not galas, they’re an analogue for peasants, but everyone’s invited if they care to look for the events, just like it always was. I’m sorry to those who don’t have this possibility in their respective area.
When my dad was stationed in South Carolina the town we lived in for a while had one of these. Shout out to Lugoff-Elgin, Home of the Catfish Stomp.
Look up “contra dancing” in your area
Bro wtf this is awesome
Swing dance, blues dance, etc. They all have awesome clubs in downtown areas, often with live bands.
Are those events usually advertised on Craig’s list and have the password “Orgy”?
What country do you live in?
You didn’t go to galas unless you owned successful businesses or people.
My favorite gala was the one in Dishonored where I could kill people and they rolled with it.
Such people only “love” you for your status, as an exquisite piece of their collection. You are merely a luxury for them.
Imagine missing out on nightclubs and all the other places a normal person can enjoy a night out…
Yeah but we also still have tavern wenches like your mother.
Uncool dude… Mother deserve to be treated nicely on the fediverse.
If she’s into “nice guys,” I guess I could role play.
So your answer to misogyny is more misogyny… How elegant !
That’s not misogyny, it’s objectification.
You know their mother won’t see this right?
I never go dancing in bals populaires whether for the forteen of July or for the fête de la musique but where do this person live not to have a place to go, dance and meet people?
I mean, if you want to go the capitalist way, nightclub are quite spread around the world…
Yes, there are all kinds of dance events from the formal to the casual. It depends where you live, I guess what’s on offer.
Vienna has a fantastic ball culture for example.
I’ve always heared that LATAM would do the siesta cause they go dancing at night. I even meet people that move there for a few years just to enjoy the dancing culture.
I want this, but men dress up in their favorite version of “formal”. Classic black tux? Yes. A 19th century get-up complete with cravat? Absolutely. A tee with a tux printed on it & black jeans? Sure. Medieval finery? Bring it.
I want to see them trying to attract partners like they’re peacocks. I’d be curious to see who/what draws a crowd!
Women should do the same. I’d love to attend something like that!
You’ll just be swarmed exclusively by other men asking about your setup. But maybe that’s what you’re into!
(also blue jeans are not allowed at this event unless they are a part of the Canadian Tuxedo)
You’re gonna need a mop with a fit like that.
This exists at colleges and senior centers, surely we can get something in between…
I had tickets to a fancy gala to support one of the museums and I forgot to go, so I don’t see that happening for me.
They were there, waiting for you!
Probably, but due to my complete inability to remember anything that’s not in my phone calendar, we’ll never meet. Tragic.
You might want to check if they’re still there…
Hey, that’s what I think when I walk past a local party for all the people that suck the dicks of the local political party.