• DavidGarcia@feddit.nl
    46·
    3 years ago

    times I have been successful: 1) wearing trashbag, 2) wearing a nerd costume, 3) wearing the ugliest fit I could find

    I think he may be onto something

      • cynarEnglish
        5·
        3 years ago

        For those unsure. Often the difference is the displayed confidence. If you’re showing embarrassment or are unsure, it quickly becomes creepy. If you own it with confidence, then it projects “screw the norms, I’m good enough to ignore them”, which is attractive to a lot of women.

        The confidence doesn’t have to be real either. The difference between fake and real is entirely in your own head. No-one can tell, unless you let them.

        • Mommy Longarms@sh.itjust.works
          2·
          3 years ago

          Often the difference

          That often is an important distinction here. I’ve definitely had people very confidently creep me the fuck out with their weird bullshit. Honestly sometimes it makes it so much worse.

            • cynarEnglish
              1·
              3 years ago

              True, however, while arrogance requires a lot of confidence, confidence doesn’t need to be arrogant. The best bet is to laugh at yourself, not put others down. It’s far from simple, and you can get it wrong at times, but it’s far better than being unconfident in yourself, while doing something weird.

    • stebo@sopuli.xyz
      8·
      3 years ago

      I was Shrek for Halloween and suddenly got a lot more attention so maybe I should be Shrek all the time?

        • bouh
          2·
          3 years ago

          Basically, the longer you stay on this kind of app, the more likely you become to hate the other sex, and you start to become manipulative and do stupid things to navigate the nonsense. It’s true madness.

  • gmtom
    6·
    3 years ago

    My tactic is to just approach women with interesting but niche facts until one offers to peg me.