didn’t mean to dehumanize them, i meant that they aren’t men in the sense of masculinity. theres not much thats less masculine than bothering people who don’t want to be bothered.
Assault is not an masculine trait, it’s an action done by disgusting people regardless of gender. I wasn’t assaulted often, but I was hit by women more often than men(I know that I am in the minority, but it demonstrates that violence is not inherently something based in gender).
I personally think that masculinity (or femininity) is diminished by such actions. It makes people look undisciplined and lacking morals, empathy and respect.
I also think it’s important to start defining masculinity and femininity by positive traits, so young people see it and aspire to embody those traits. We need a counter-weight to the Tate’s and Rogan’s in this world.
Women are already safer ‘walking at night’ than men are, by a wide margin. And even for men it’s quite rare overall.
You’ve been duped by fear-mongering propaganda.
Also, the fact is that any pair of people is statistically WAY less likely to be attacked in that way, than any individual. This should be the primary ‘tip’ at the top of the list when it comes to educating about being safe in that situation. Nothing reduces your risk more, regardless of your sex, than not being all by yourself. Nothing else comes even close.
P.S. Bonus tip, because I hate whenever I see this ‘advice’ making the rounds on social media or whatnot: doing some Wolverine-style shit with your keys is a stupid self-defense idea; it’s ineffective and literally more likely to do damage to you than an attacker. Instead, in a pinch, it’s much better to hold the largest key you have (likely car key) between thumb and index finger, and ‘stab’ with it like a dagger, hard as you can.
What part of this are you doubting the accuracy of? None of it is controversial (if you care about what the facts/statistics are more than what you want them to be, that is).
Sure, it’s a bit hyperbolic, but the fact of the matter is that I’ve never met anyone else who was as good or consistent at keeping personal feelings and biases from influencing their conclusions, not even close.
And so, so many people here think they have me figured out, and also aren’t even close, because they in their lazy-mindedness are so used to putting people in their stereotype-defined buckets, instead of assessing them as individuals.
Awesome. As a woman, I cannot wait for the day men will be so occupied with a robot waifu, that we can finally walk safely at night.
Well most men don’t assault women. It’s always a small percentile. And since assault is often about power, not sex, I doubt that would solve anything.
It has always been dominance seeking behaviour. Testosterone’s prime choice. Nothing new there.
You only have one life. It only takes one asshole to maim you for the rest of your life. Can’t afford to lose your life.
As a dude, it pains me that this is the current state of affairs. I wish things were better for both men and women (and all others too).
Would you feel better knowing that it’s actually not, and ‘stranger jumping person in a dark alley’ type attacks are extremely rare?
Got one life. Got one chance. Can’t afford to lose it to a rare occurence.
That’s a reason to take common sense precautions, not a reason to spend that one life paralyzed by fear.
Why do you think avoiding walking alone is a common sense precaution? It’s because you cannot win the fight.
I have an even better proposition: have a gang of robot waifus/husbandos to kick the asses of any “men” who misbehave.
Don’t say “men” as if they aren’t human. They are men as much as the ones who aren’t assholes.
didn’t mean to dehumanize them, i meant that they aren’t men in the sense of masculinity. theres not much thats less masculine than bothering people who don’t want to be bothered.
Anything a man does, could be dubbed as masculine. Be it helping someone, or dominating someone.
Boys and men have the habit to fight moreso than girls and women. More violently too. Yet when a man assaults someone, it’s somehow not masculine?
Assault is not an masculine trait, it’s an action done by disgusting people regardless of gender. I wasn’t assaulted often, but I was hit by women more often than men(I know that I am in the minority, but it demonstrates that violence is not inherently something based in gender).
I personally think that masculinity (or femininity) is diminished by such actions. It makes people look undisciplined and lacking morals, empathy and respect.
I also think it’s important to start defining masculinity and femininity by positive traits, so young people see it and aspire to embody those traits. We need a counter-weight to the Tate’s and Rogan’s in this world.
Women are already safer ‘walking at night’ than men are, by a wide margin. And even for men it’s quite rare overall.
You’ve been duped by fear-mongering propaganda.
Also, the fact is that any pair of people is statistically WAY less likely to be attacked in that way, than any individual. This should be the primary ‘tip’ at the top of the list when it comes to educating about being safe in that situation. Nothing reduces your risk more, regardless of your sex, than not being all by yourself. Nothing else comes even close.
P.S. Bonus tip, because I hate whenever I see this ‘advice’ making the rounds on social media or whatnot: doing some Wolverine-style shit with your keys is a stupid self-defense idea; it’s ineffective and literally more likely to do damage to you than an attacker. Instead, in a pinch, it’s much better to hold the largest key you have (likely car key) between thumb and index finger, and ‘stab’ with it like a dagger, hard as you can.
Source?
What part of this are you doubting the accuracy of? None of it is controversial (if you care about what the facts/statistics are more than what you want them to be, that is).
Ever heard of humility
Sure, it’s a bit hyperbolic, but the fact of the matter is that I’ve never met anyone else who was as good or consistent at keeping personal feelings and biases from influencing their conclusions, not even close.
And so, so many people here think they have me figured out, and also aren’t even close, because they in their lazy-mindedness are so used to putting people in their stereotype-defined buckets, instead of assessing them as individuals.