• @Nuke_the_whales
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    23 months ago

    This person has no idea what bdsm is

    • @MotoAsh
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      113 months ago

      Being put down is a tiny subsect of domination, more related to humiliation than domination. Sadism doesn’t have to come with mean words, either.

      So… if anyone doesn’t understand bdsm… it’s you.

    • @mholiv
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      3 months ago

      There is a big difference between porn and 24/7 bdsm relationships. In real world 24/7 relationships a lot of it is care and enforcement of good for everyone rules.

      Not saying porn style scenes don’t happen. It’s just a lot more than that. At least in healthy 24/7 bdsm relationships.

      If you want to learn more about bdsm I recommend lifestyle blogs or even books.

      • @captainlezbian
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        33 months ago

        Yeah but this feels like the other extreme. I’m in a 24/7 dynamic and have been for several years. I’ve also been heavily involved in power exchange communities (including irl) for that time. Praise is part of it, and an important part, but so is harshness, punishment is one of the critical elements of many lifestyle dynamics and one I vocally advocate for the use of as a submissive.

        For how I’d describe the long term power exchange is as a relationship with a power exchange. Caregiving is a kink but it’s one I see as much more common for subs than for doms

        • @mholiv
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          13 months ago

          Fair. Lot‘s of kink styled out there. I just think hers is valid too. I do standby the idea that care is needed for healthy long term 24/7 power exchange dynamics. It just might be expressed differently.

          • @captainlezbian
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            23 months ago

            I agree. I guess I’m just sick of seeing bdsm being depicted overly cutesy and ignoring that it often involves pain for the sake of pain

    • @shneancy
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      23 months ago

      as a very kinky person - it is in fact you who has no idea